Mauve Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 So IVE been having this thing with a guy, we've met up a fair amount now and texted quite often, he seemed totally into me but we both said we weren't ready for a relationship but might be in future we just want to see where it goes We've also clarified that we aren't talking to other people just each other, we haven't had sex (im a virgin he isn't) we've just done other stuff (if U get what I mean, dont wanna be graphic) which im fine with since I enjoy it. But lately he takes ages to respond to my texts like hours and doesn't put in effort, but I went to the cinema with him and our friend and he was texting other people just fine, he's also on facebook and Twitter actively while not answering me. IVE confronted him about it and said im a bit worried hes not into me and if he isn't into me that its ok and we can stop talking. And he assured me he is and that he's just busy a lot and doesn't mean to ignore me. But yet he's still on Facebook and Twitter when he doesn't answer me. But when we do text and if I don't answer him quick enough he will also confront me about it and act as how I'm acting. I feel like he is interested.. but my pushiness is definitely wavering him, so could I get some advice on if you guys think he's interested? And also advice on how to .... well lay off of him? I don't want to come across needy or too strong if that makes sense. Thanks a bunch if any of you decide to help!
Toodaloo Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 He isn't all that into you and was just being polite when you spoke to him. Because lets face it saying to someone that you can't really be bothered any more when they ask you is actually really difficult to do... Time to move on. Stop texting him, no more comments on FB, be polite when you are around him but basically ignore his presence. He will either come running or he will appreciate the peace and quiet! 1
kendahke Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 How long is "a fair amount now", exactly? How long have you known him and how long have you been dating? (2 different things)
kendahke Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 It seems that when he chooses to think about you, then your level of importance rises. When he's not thinking about you, then whatever he is thinking about-their level rises. Depends upon who/what he's thinking about. His twitter and facebook stuff, IMO, really isn't any indication one way or the other of anything as far as you are concerned--he sees something his friends have posted and he responds to it because it doesn't require an investment of his emotion to do so. He may feel that responding to your texts may require an investment he doesn't feel like making in that moment, hence you going on ignore. Again, I think the amount of time you've known him and have been dating him will clear up a lot about what's going on. If you two have been together +6months and this is going on, then I'd say you've been demoted. If it's been < 6months, then I'd say he isn't committed to the relationship yet as there may not have been a declaration of exclusivity/commitment made yet that would then obligate him to raising your level of importance in his life. 1
Author Mauve Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 How long is "a fair amount now", exactly? How long have you known him and how long have you been dating? (2 different things) Met up just us two and no other friends about 10-15 times. We have known OF eachother for a year or two now but had our first proper converstion about 4 months ago, been dating for about a month now
Author Mauve Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Thanks so much guys, feels good getting outsiders opinions
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