Hateful Black Women

[Anela]

I'm not sure I can blame them....

 

They are widely regarded as the least desirable women in society, white, and other races of women look down on them and their men totally crap all over them...

 

I don't what else would one expect..?

 

TFY

 

Who looks down on them? As a white woman, I don't, and several here have also posted in support of them.

 

I can't even...

 

I agree.

 

Case in point the angry black woman telling me she gets mad when she sees black men with white women. I mean what better way to perpetuate your existence as an angry black woman than being an actual angry black woman.

 

The thing is, she totally didn't get it.

 

I've never understood why a man would look down on women of his own race (or anything race-related). She sounds understandably angry. It's the same hypocrisy that I've mentioned elsewhere.

[thefooloftheyear]

Who looks down on them? As a white woman, I don't, and several here have also posted in support of them.

 

I can't even...

 

 

 

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And as a white man, I dont either...

 

But as hard as this is for you to comprehend, its a biiiiiiiiig world beyond your 4 walls and your computer screen...

 

TFY

[Col1]

I'm a man who's pushing 40 but not Black. I have been attracted to Black girls all my life, probably starting with Kim Fields. But I grew up in an area that was predominantly Caucasian. Very few Black families, Hispanics, or Asians. No interracial dating occurred back then, even though it was on TV. So I did not dare asking out any of the few Black girls in my high school. Then after high school, there was a realization that relationships became focused on a goal of marriage and children. I did not want to procreate interracial children. So I again didn't ask out any Black women.

 

Now, here I am approaching 40, and no biological kids. Doubt it's going to happen. I'm more interested in women my age than looking for a much younger partner. Women my age are also realistically think kids will probably be a long-shot, if not then adopt or live happily without them.

 

So... I feel free to date interracially. I've moved to a much more diverse area. Lots of Black people. I would like to ask out some Black women now. However, the one thing that's stopped me so far is the (fear of) stink-eye or worse from Black men in public that I'm robbing "their" ethnic dating pool. Does that intimidation happen out in public? And more importantly, do most single Black women even want interracial relationships--are they holding out for a Black man (as the OP implies)?

Edited April 27, 2015 by Col1

[Timshel]

So... I feel free to date interracially. I've moved to a much more diverse area. Lots of Black people. I would like to ask out some Black women now. However, the one thing that's stopped me so far is the (fear of) stink-eye or worse from Black men in public that I'm robbing "their" ethnic dating pool. Does that intimidation happen out in public? And more importantly, do Black women even want interracial relationships--are they holding out for a Black man (as the OP implies)?

 

I am not black but am Greek and my two husbands were Irish and Scottish. So they were very fair, blonde and blue eyes and I have an olive complexion, brown hair and brown eyes.

Geography may play a part but even with those physical differences in the South, we got some side eye. I even still get it now with my son who is also fair, blonde and blue eyed. I have to laugh about it really. I does boil down to ignorance and prejudice. I would not let stupid people dictate your happiness. You might miss some really great relationships!

[Robert Z]

I would not let stupid people dictate your happiness. You might miss some really great relationships!

 

 

I'll second that emotion.

[Quiet Storm]

I'm white and have been with my black husband since high school (1991).

 

Back then, I was harassed and even jumped by a few black girls who hated me just because I was with a black guy. However, I stood up and fought back. After that, I became known as "that crazy little white girl" and they were cool with me.

 

Interestingly, I also received hate from white guys. They said I was too pretty and not fat enough to go out with a black guy. I was told that since I was going out with a black guy, I was tarnished & white guys wouldn't want me anymore. They said my husband (then BF) was using me for sex, and that he would cheat or dump me.

 

After I got through the high school drama, most black girls did not have an issue with it. My husband's mom & three sisters loved me. They provided me with the love, support & laughter that was missing in my own household. I have never felt more accepted or welcomed in my life (even within my own family), then I did with them. (RIP Mama)

 

Throughout the years, I've received a few negative looks & comments from black women about my marriage, but most are very accepting. I have many black women colleagues, kids teachers, neighbors, etc. and I am always welcomed. They always compliment my kids for their cuteness, tell me I do a good job with my daughter's hair, invite me to parties, etc.

 

It's true that there is a shortage of black men. For every 100 single women in Baltimore, there are 74 single men due to homicides and jail. Out of those, a good portion are unemployed or a criminal. Many black women are professionals and their options for professional black men are limited, so I get why some feel angry. Their anger is misdirected, but I can understand it.

Edited April 27, 2015 by Quiet Storm

[Davey L]

I'm white married to a black women. I've not noticed much problem here in the UK except for some black men who assume she would want a black man on the side. However when we are in Africa she will receive a lot of verbal abuse from black men.

[sowhathuh]

I am a black woman & I predominantly date white men.

I've never experienced any negativity from any race but I also live in a melting pot where race mixing is very common. Have you heard of "the Secret"? Perhaps you are thinking hateful stares into existence.

[preraph]

I also see why they'd get angry because it limits their dating field. But they should be mad at the men choosing not to date them more than someone agreeing to date them. But I have to say it's no worse and in much smaller proportions to the problem of middle aged men trying to still date 20-year-olds (of all ethnicities) leaving women their own age to fend for themselves alone.