What am I feeling?

[dangerbang]

Yours is mid 30's???? Mine is 35.

But yeah, she on face book with them all the time sometime she takes drugs with them but as you say doesn't ever go out with or have any close female friends.

Including myself iv just counted 6 of these people who would adore her & run around after her & 5 of them that I know of have slept with her & 3 of them were in proper relationships with her.

Thankfully after recent events of 2 weeks ago I have now removed myself from the merri go round so she is now left with 5. She loves the attention & thinks it's perfectly normal to associate with & see these blokes even when in a relationship with another.

The mental torture she put me through when I was with her was horrible saying things like "I'll see who I want when I want & no man is ever going to stop me doing that"

 

Well look, she would never have and never will change. Just don't go out with another one. She will never be happy. Think of her in 10 years - still the same lifestyle? Probably alone and depressed I would say. I don't think women offer these types of crazy women the attention they want so they only hang out with men.

I couldn't have met someone with more similar problems - I'd buy you a beer if I could

[Clarkwg]

Well look, she would never have and never will change. Just don't go out with another one. She will never be happy. Think of her in 10 years - still the same lifestyle? Probably alone and depressed I would say. I don't think women offer these types of crazy women the attention they want so they only hang out with men.

I couldn't have met someone with more similar problems - I'd buy you a beer if I could

 

My thoughts on it are this, her relationships throughout her life have a shelf life of a maximum of two years (except me) so on a basis of that she will probably have time for another 2 or 3 until she loses her looks & figure. At that point when she is far less attractive she won't have all the options she currently has yet she will still be the same selfish, lying, controling, heartless woman she currently is & she probably will end up a lonely woman.

 

Myself though, Im planning to fully recover & move on from this episode before I think about getting involved with anyone else long term & at least I'll know the warning signs to look out for this time.

None of it hurts me like it used to & thoughts of them together doesn't cut as deep as it once did so hopefully thats a sign I'm moving in the right direction.

[dangerbang]

My thoughts on it are this, her relationships throughout her life have a shelf life of a maximum of two years (except me) so on a basis of that she will probably have time for another 2 or 3 until she loses her looks & figure. At that point when she is far less attractive she won't have all the options she currently has yet she will still be the same selfish, lying, controling, heartless woman she currently is & she probably will end up a lonely woman.

 

Myself though, Im planning to fully recover & move on from this episode before I think about getting involved with anyone else long term & at least I'll know the warning signs to look out for this time.

None of it hurts me like it used to & thoughts of them together doesn't cut as deep as it once did so hopefully thats a sign I'm moving in the right direction.

 

Yes it sounds like you are. What helped me is I've thought back of a lovely girlfriend I had for 2 years once, about 10 years ago. She was an absolute sweetheart and we never fought, although I did manage to upset her quite a bit. It was just because she was 6 years older than me and we wanted different things, so I'd always be out, not show up when I was supposed to etc... But I always trusted her, she never did anything impulsive or crazy, she had a nice set of girlfriends, and it always seemed like she really appreciated me and the time we spent together.

The complete opposite of our recent messes.

 

My mind is still in overdrive but it's cooling down and I'm helping myself get over it too. At least I never have to see or hear from my one ever again.

[Clarkwg]

Yes it sounds like you are. What helped me is I've thought back of a lovely girlfriend I had for 2 years once, about 10 years ago. She was an absolute sweetheart and we never fought, although I did manage to upset her quite a bit. It was just because she was 6 years older than me and we wanted different things, so I'd always be out, not show up when I was supposed to etc... But I always trusted her, she never did anything impulsive or crazy, she had a nice set of girlfriends, and it always seemed like she really appreciated me and the time we spent together.

The complete opposite of our recent messes.

 

My mind is still in overdrive but it's cooling down and I'm helping myself get over it too. At least I never have to see or hear from my one ever again.

 

So now my ex has got with this new on/off bloke, knowing what you know about BPD would you say she will leave me alone & he will be the continued focus of her attention or do you think her attention may try revisit me?

I read that BPD people have no problem moving on straight away & disregarding the past which is why she was in his bed within a month of our near decade long relationship ending.

[dangerbang]

So now my ex has got with this new on/off bloke, knowing what you know about BPD would you say she will leave me alone & he will be the continued focus of her attention or do you think her attention may try revisit me?

I read that BPD people have no problem moving on straight away & disregarding the past which is why she was in his bed within a month of our near decade long relationship ending.

 

well the fact that you have a kid involved, i would say more than likely her attention will focus on you eventually. In 10 years time probably no one will touch her with a barge pole and you'll be the father of her kid. I can't imagine what that's going to lead to ffs.

Things wont work out with her current bloke, she's sick of you too, so she'll probably just keep getting her kicks elsewhere. I can't see her coming back to you for a long time until her options run out.

[Clarkwg]

well the fact that you have a kid involved, i would say more than likely her attention will focus on you eventually. In 10 years time probably no one will touch her with a barge pole and you'll be the father of her kid. I can't imagine what that's going to lead to ffs.

Things wont work out with her current bloke, she's sick of you too, so she'll probably just keep getting her kicks elsewhere. I can't see her coming back to you for a long time until her options run out.

 

Let's hope so by which time I will be so far detatched from her that it's easy to reject any potential future advances without feeling guilt (which she likes to heap on me)