hillie24 Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Hey, everyone. I had a question that I hope you can help me with. I am two months pregnant, and while this is not my first child, I am having some problems. Last time I was pregnant, I couldn't get sex enough. I wanted it all the time, and was thrilled to go at it all the time. I think it was in my second trimester that I started feeling like that. This time, however, I want to have sex, but when my husband touches me, I almost immediately get irritated. Its not because he's touching me, its because I want more intimate touches, and he wants to get right down to business. I love having sex with him, but he thinks that since I am not as enthusiastic as last time, that I'm not interested. I try to tell him that I want to be touched on my face, and he sighs and gives up. How can I make him understand how I feel right now? Thanks!
laRubiaBonita Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by hillie24 How can I make him understand how I feel right now? Knock him up, make his hormones rage outta control, then tell him to deal with life as usual. that is the only way you will get true empathy from him.
Skeered Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by laRubiaBonita Knock him up, make his hormones rage outta control, then tell him to deal with life as usual. that is the only way you will get true empathy from him. LMAO As harsh as that sounds it's so true..with each of my pregnancies I was vastly different in my emotional state and stuff so you have to deal with it accordingly...your body is going through so much right now I'm sure if you had a heart to heart with hubby about it he would understand better... I think the way you are feeling is totally normal...
Author hillie24 Posted April 19, 2005 Author Posted April 19, 2005 Thanks, I'll see what I can do. That would be nice, though.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 is he all read up on the baby books? like the girlfriends guide to pregnancy...hilarious, and good for a dude to read and get enlightened.
GirlDown Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 so let him sigh and give up...he's only hurting himself in the end. also, i think he's being insensitive, and this is one time he certainly shouldn't be.
HokeyReligions Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Sometimes people don't hear as well from those around them and it takes an outsider to get through. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Bring your husband w/ you next time and ask the doctor to talk about some of the changes and differences between pregnancies, and about hormones and moods, and everything. Maybe if your husband hears it coming from a doctor he will "get" it.
blind_otter Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Do you talk about this issue outside of the bedroom, or do you wait until you guys are doing the dirty to critique your sex life? Timing is everything. I f you only bring it up when you want sex, it may not be the best way to get through to him. Men are usually unable to deal with pregnant women anyways. Pregnant women get crazy!!! I know, I was really emotional and got upset at diaper commercials.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter Do you talk about this issue outside of the bedroom, or do you wait until you guys are doing the dirty to critique your sex life? Timing is everything. I f you only bring it up when you want sex, it may not be the best way to get through to him. Excellent Point B_O! Men are quite a vulnerable state in the bedroom, and mentioning then could come across as an attack or just make him feel non-effetive. so definately mention, in a non-sexual setting/ mood. and try to say what you want, not what he does wrong.
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