mongo Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 there was a girl i went to high school with that i fell in love with. we were friends. i only brought it up one time...but she was into someone else. i havent seen her in 7 years. i know theres plenty of women in the world and people are going to say move on. whats bothering me is the connection she and i had...i never had that with anyone else. i never got to show her the affection i wanted to, i couldnt express it. this has troubled me for many years and not a day goes by i havent thought of her. lately it has bothered me deep down and ive begun to think about her all day at work. im not making her out to be ideal or perfect, she had her flaws. ive dated plenty of women and i dont feel the same. ive told myself to forget it but i cant. i miss her very much. i keep having dreams about her. i know i should get it out of my head but i cant. help.
Gary S Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 Date other women.... nothing can take your mind off the old like a new flame can! 1
Author mongo Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 ive tried. sometimes it helps but temporarily.
adamastor Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You need 2 things to get over your lost love: Some time, and other girls.
Popsicle Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Read this article How To Stop Thinking About Someone - The Easy Way
preraph Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You need to be realistic. Just because you haven't had that connection with anyone else doesn't mean she hasn't and then some. Because at the time she wasn't interested romantically in you, so I bet by now she's had romantic relationships with guys that are more of a connection than what you felt you had with her. The good news is that if you were able to connect with this girl, you can connect with other girls and one day one will like you back in the same way.
La.Primavera Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You have let this fantasy of her cloud your judgement for too long. It has been 7 years! It has effected your ability to find something real with someone else. It is such a waste of your time. Honestly, there are so many other amazing women out there who would treat you right. You need let the past go and move on for your own sake. The only thing I can think that might help is to retrain your mind to think of her in a negative way. Think about all the ways she is unsuitable for you, all her flaws, even if you have to make them up. She obviously didn't feel the same way or you would have been together right? She never cared about you as much as you did her, so why fixate on her? Thinking about questions like this instead should help you feel less inclined to think about her because they will make you feel bad. If this doesn't work I think you should consider contacting her and telling her your regrets from the past in order to gain some closure so you can move on. All the best.
mortensorchid Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 I know how you feel. I was in love once, he was the love of my life. But he was selfish and cowardly, he moved away from here ten years ago and said he would contact me once he was settled in his new home. He never did. I loved him, but ... Just because you love someone doesn't mean you're going to live happily ever after with them. You're still here, as am I. A lot of things have happened since then, we learn more and we see more and we change. For better or for worse, that's how it is. We're still here.
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