ashleeisme Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 I've been sleeping with this guy for about 3 months. We haven't had the are we FWB's conversation or something more? We are just going with the flow. We have a great time together, he's very affectionate both in public and when we are at his place or mine. He can be quite unreliable with cancelling plans and what not, says all the sweetest things (not sure if this is what he feels he has to do to continue with sleeping with me) and we get along very well. On Friday night, we had arranged to meet after he finished work at 10pm. We were tecxting back anf fourth and then when I asked him what time he was finishing and where he wanted to meet, he stopped responding. The following day it was my birthday, and I know how childish this sounds but he didn't wish me a happy birthday, not a text.. nothing. It literally takes 2 seconds and I can't help but feel hurt. He was well aware it was birthday. We went to school together so we have 100's of mutual friends on facebook, he is always online, and I had mentioned it was my bday the day before. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Do i text him? Do I wait for him to contact me? Not sure what to do from here without looking clingy etc. PLEASE HELP!
Satu Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 It doesn't seem that he values you very much. I don't think you're overreacting at all. If I were you, he would have already received his marching orders. 1
Gary S Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 If he breaks dates and can't wish you a happy birthday after 3 months, it's not going to get any better and probably won't be a happy relationship. The affection is great, but women need romance also. 1
Vercetti Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 Maybe he was just distracted by his hundreds of friends.../sarcasm
Versacehottie Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 I hate to admit that I've been in your situation before. So I speak from experience, when I say there is nothing good that will come of contacting him to fill in the blanks or making excuses for him. Your best bet is to pull back and let him contact you. Clingy is contacting someone when they have not shown you respect you deserve. Speak up when he does contact you. Make sure you do it in calm, concise way--it's the best way to get your message across to a guy, a brief explanation and your actions. It's hard to do but he is showing you his level of investment so don't keep your interest level on high when someone mistreats you. I feel for you. Good luck and Happy Birthday!
ExpatInItaly Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 He's showing you that this is not more than a casual, sexual arrangement for him. It's not in relationship-territory. Him not even responding to your messages after you'd planned to meet up should tell you everything you need to know about his level of interest. I think you need to let this one go. Don't bother contacting him. Consider it done and start moving on.
SawtoothMars Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Do i text him? Do I wait for him to contact me? Not sure what to do from here without looking clingy etc. PLEASE HELP! You can't ask a FWB to act like a BF! This whole thread is like you went out and bought a cupcake, and now your pissed because it isn't a steak.
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