EgoJoe Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 I too still care for a disordered female who did me wrong. But I'm not romantically inclined towards her. I know what it's like to be in your shoes. Keep moving forward. There are better Women out there. I'm already with one myself. 1
Author Tone Loc Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Today I'm questioning all the choices I've made. I'm not sure if I can carry on with this no contact, I'm desperate to see her again and to tell her that I love her. I can't get her out of my mind, I miss her terribly. I can't accept the situation at all, it can't be over, can't end like this.
OK_computer Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 Today I'm questioning all the choices I've made. I'm not sure if I can carry on with this no contact, I'm desperate to see her again and to tell her that I love her. I can't get her out of my mind, I miss her terribly. I can't accept the situation at all, it can't be over, can't end like this. Tone Loc, What's up? How was your day?
Author Tone Loc Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 Tone Loc, What's up? How was your day? Hi buddy how are you? My day has been okay so far, for the most part... But with each day that passes, I'm losing faith in the idea of cutting contact with my girl, I love her so much and I've always loved her. It's very difficult to accept the situation, how can I simply let her go like this, I don't want to let her go. I miss her so much, I'd give anything to see her again, just to be with her and spend time and be happy with her. Ahh... I just don't know. I keep reading stories on here where people are still thinking about and missing their exes many months after the break up, and I fear I may be heading for the same fate. I would give absolutely anything to be with my girl again just to tell her I love her and to hear her tell me she loves me, and if she cries I just want to wipe her tears away and give her a hug and tell her I'll be there for her. I can't do it anymore...I won't reach out to her, but if she reaches out I think I'm going to get back with her and try to make things work. I refuse to let her go, I love her so much, I can't be without her. I don't know what's been happening in her life and it's killing me. How are you holding up buddy? 1
Author Tone Loc Posted May 7, 2015 Author Posted May 7, 2015 I'm such an idiot how I handled this. Two or three weeks ago when we last met, I left her crying and I didn't even comfort her, I wish I could go back and change that. I left her crying and shaking uncontrollably, I destroyed her, abandoned her, hurt her, ignored her, walked away from her...I'm so stupid for throwing away the best thing that's ever happened to me.
OK_computer Posted May 7, 2015 Posted May 7, 2015 But you were so stonewalled against her, you wanted her to leave you alone...stick to it now.
Author Tone Loc Posted May 8, 2015 Author Posted May 8, 2015 DAMN IT!!!!! I just broke NC, 17 days of hard work gone down the drain. What a waste! I finally caved and called the ex, she told me to f*** myself and told me she slept with a few men in the last couple weeks! Ouch! She completely brushed me aside, she's already moved on fully. Haha I am officially the biggest idiot on here, why oh why did I call her! Now I'm back to day zero of NC, damn it to hell. Nothing good ever comes out of breaking NC, I have to start from scratch now damn it! At least it's officially over now, well and truly, always and forever, final nail in the coffin. I hope others learn from my mistake, whatever you do, don't contact your ex! 2
OK_computer Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 DAMN IT!!!!! I just broke NC, 17 days of hard work gone down the drain. What a waste! I finally caved and called the ex, she told me to f*** myself and told me she slept with a few men in the last couple weeks! Ouch! She completely brushed me aside, she's already moved on fully. Haha I am officially the biggest idiot on here, why oh why did I call her! Now I'm back to day zero of NC, damn it to hell. Nothing good ever comes out of breaking NC, I have to start from scratch now damn it! At least it's officially over now, well and truly, always and forever, final nail in the coffin. I hope others learn from my mistake, whatever you do, don't contact your ex! You live and learn bro. I've broken NC many times before finally sticking to it..for good. So don't worry, it's not like you were a year into it and broke it. 17 days is easy to make up. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted May 8, 2015 Posted May 8, 2015 So wait, you told her to stop contacting you, blocked her everywhere, changed your number, then as soon as you did that you contacted her? Yeah, I would have probably told you off simply for being wishy-washy. Sorry dude, but ouch, that comes off as some really manipulative sh*t. I guess the lesson here is to make a decision and own it. Don't waffle. 3
Author Tone Loc Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 Update/recap: Just dropping in to vent, more for myself really. Went through 17 days of no contact, then I got a missed call from her and I made the huge, stupid mistake of getting back in contact. But I dusted myself off and started again. Now it has been 9 days of NC and this time I'm determined not to mess it up, I'm going to stick to it. Today I received a letter in the mail from her, but it really didn't move me at all. I was almost indifferent after reading it. Weird. I have decided that the only way that I would ever get back with her is if she travels 120 miles to my city, knocks on my front door, greets me with a fresh chocolate fudge cake, gets down on her knees and begs for my forgiveness and apologises sincerely for everything that she has done. Only then will I ever consider getting back together. A letter just ain't gonna cut it, she needs to go all out. Which I know is not going to happen, I have no expectations and I feel like I've already moved on. When she decided to step out on me like she did, that's when she ex-ed herself out completely. We don't have to argue or reconcile, that's all done. A woman who gives herself away so easily to other men is not a woman worth having, that's what I always say. Cheers.
Satu Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Block her from everything and burn any letters unopened. If you still have not blocked all the ways she can contact you, you are not doing NC properly. ************************************************** *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. *************************************************** 1
Author Tone Loc Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 (edited) Block her from everything and burn any letters unopened. If you still have not blocked all the ways she can contact you, you are not doing NC properly. ************************************************** *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. *************************************************** Hi Satu You see, I have a big problem here. I've severed absolutely every avenue of communication...the only thing that I cannot change unfortunately is my address. She knows where I live and she keeps sending letters as a last resort to get through. It's frustrating. I've stopped using social media sites that she's on, I changed my number, I destroyed my old sim cards, I deleted every single photo and email, I have absolutely no way to contact her now, even if I wanted to. But the problem remains - she knows my address. It was a big mistake telling her my house number, what was I thinking! Silly goose me. I've been debating for a long time whether I should burn her letters without even opening them. I even thought of making a video and posting it on YouTube, lol. But I felt like I needed to read her letter, and as I said, it was junk. It didn't move me, not one bit. I'll consider burning her future letters while still unopened. So what would you suggest? How can I handle this final problem? Should I not even read her letters at all? I feel like I'm curious to find out what she has to say, I'm definitely anticipating more letters from her. She has her summer break coming up soon where she's going to be very bored and lonely. Thank you for your comment Edited May 18, 2015 by Tone Loc 1
Author Tone Loc Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 Funny thing, she didn't write her name anywhere in the letter at all, so I told myself "how do you even know this letter is from her? It could be absolutely anyone" lol. Maybe it's my neighbour playing a prank on me? Probably.
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