parkerbelan Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 So me and my girlfriend who have dated off and on for the past 3 years recently got back together about 4 months ago. I am in college and she is a senior in high school. I come back to see her close to every other weekend or every 3 weekends and when I do, we spend all day with each other the whole weekend. She has never been the kind to have lots of friends, but recently she has been hanging out with a group of guys and girls and i got a little jeleous. I knew that telling her i was jelous would seem too needy, but when she was with them last night it slipped out. We talked this morning and she stated that she needs space away from me so she can enjoy her friends and senior year without worrying her boyfriend is mad at her. I know i came off as too needy and controlling, but i do not know what i should do right now given the situation.
brandonjo Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 Apologize first and tell her you accept her decision. Then go NC for ONE WEEK IF you spoke almost everyday, THREE WEEKS, if you were needy and controlling after her decision. If she does not contact you, say something along the lines of a subtle question to regain communication. Like "what was the name of that store we visited on so and so holiday?" in a non nonchalant way. Be positive, don't speak of the relationship unless she does. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2015 Posted April 26, 2015 You basically left her & she's building a life without you. When you complained about it, she got upset. She knows that once she's off to college things will get harder. She probably wants to take another boy to prom, since he's there & you are not. You accept that the distance & the stages of your life have taken a toll. You concentrate on your finals. You see how things are for the summer but you expect that come Fall this will absolutely be over & then you start dating a coed at your college. 1
Author parkerbelan Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 You basically left her & she's building a life without you. When you complained about it, she got upset. She knows that once she's off to college things will get harder. She probably wants to take another boy to prom, since he's there & you are not. You accept that the distance & the stages of your life have taken a toll. You concentrate on your finals. You see how things are for the summer but you expect that come Fall this will absolutely be over & then you start dating a coed at your college. You are right, she is going to prom with a guy friend which I gave her permission to do so. I am trying my hardest to not be jeleous but its not always easy for me. She is actually not going off to college next year, instead taking a year off and working.
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You know he's not "just her friend", right? End it. She is basically dating another boy. 1
mightycpa Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Tell her that she's right and that at college, you're basically getting the same thing that she's asking for. This doesn't have to be "the end", but not only will she be going out with other guys, she's going to get busy with some of them. You might as well prepare yourself for that. The good news is that you're at college, and there are tons of new and interesting girls, mostly smart, mostly unmarried, mostly without children, mostly horny and almost all within walking distance of where you are. There are more women there than you can possibly meet, date and get busy with, so you should really get started on all that. This is a rare time in your life and I'd suggest that you take full advantage. Once you get out of school, the available population of women will plummet, even if you're in an urban area. Now's the time to hone your dating skills, your relationship skills, and other skills too. You want to be ready for Miss Right when she comes along, so you need to practice now. 2
Chi townD Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Dude, you life is taking you down a different path. I think it's about time to let go. And besides, you're at College! Plenty of available girls that would love a break from studying and spend a pleasant evening out with you. Try it! Especially the night of the prom. Don't be in your Dorm room! Go out, and stay busy!
BlackbirdSong Posted April 28, 2015 Posted April 28, 2015 Tell her that she's right and that at college, you're basically getting the same thing that she's asking for. This doesn't have to be "the end", but not only will she be going out with other guys, she's going to get busy with some of them. You might as well prepare yourself for that. The good news is that you're at college, and there are tons of new and interesting girls, mostly smart, mostly unmarried, mostly without children, mostly horny and almost all within walking distance of where you are. There are more women there than you can possibly meet, date and get busy with, so you should really get started on all that. This is a rare time in your life and I'd suggest that you take full advantage. Once you get out of school, the available population of women will plummet, even if you're in an urban area. Now's the time to hone your dating skills, your relationship skills, and other skills too. You want to be ready for Miss Right when she comes along, so you need to practice now. I cannot approve of this post enough. Rock solid advice here. Your girl is dating or is interested in another guy. There is zero chance in hell that if she thought you two were a real relationship and if she truly loved you that she would attend prom with somebody else. Move on my friend.
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