NC with children involved

[Clarkwg]

Hi all, new member here.

I split last year from an on/off relationship which caused me nearly a decade of some good times but also a lot of stress & heartache but I got a child out of it so it wasn't a waste of time.

I then found out my ex moved on & got with someone else which devastated me & made me think I wanted her back more than anything in the world so after chasing her & trying to win her back (to which she played along & used me) i failed in my quest so I then decided I really need to let go as it's killing me inside so the only way to stop this emotional roller coaster I'm on is to go down the NC route only it is a little harder with having a child.

I can limit my time seeing her to literally a few seconds per week when I drop off or pick up my child & sometimes I can get my brother or sister in law to deal with this for me which helps further.

My problem arises though when she contacts me over our child but totally insignificant things.

She is with her new man & claims to be the happiest she has ever been but then she contacts me daily to say things like "did you leave our daughters coat at your house" knowing full well that's not the case or "what time is pick up time on Wednesday" when it's exactly the same every week.

I got sick of this so Iv blocked her number so now all she can do is leave me a voice mail & I can get back to her if it's important so she has started leaving me a voicemail everyday now with some irrelevant question about out girl.

How should I deal with this?

I do still have strong feelings for her (I don't know why) but what she has done to me in the last month amounts to emotional & mental abuse & for that reason I need to move on ASAP without her in my life ever again but I'm not finding it easy as I am still emotionally connected even though I know she is no good for me..... Help!

[d0nnivain]

You don't get the luxury of NC when there are kids. You have to find a way to suck it up for the kids' sake.