Spoonss Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 So I have this new gf, we have been dating for 4 months. Shes really amazing and really sweet she accepts me for me which is really amazing in itself. Yet everytime i drink i start a fight for now reason and I instantly regret it and feel like a piece of ****. Basically she told me if this continues she will leave. It happened again and she left. I cant understand why I do this, because I love this girl alot actually. She wont respond to me or anything. I royally ****ed up I know i deserve it but why did i do this? I need some insight. I am so depressed and ashamed at myself for throwing away something so good
badpenny Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 If you become uncontrollable and your mood changes when you drink - then the obvious answer is to quit drinking. If you don't think you can, or you don't see why you should - then I think you may have a drinking problem. You should contact AA and attend a meeting. I'm not saying you're an Alcoholic, or Alcohol-dependant. But if it affects you this way - it's injurious to your physical and mental well-being. And you need to quit. I suggest you tell her - and your nearest and dearest - that you need help, and you are going to attend a meeting on such-and-such an evening. That way, you'll find it more difficult to play chicken and not attend.... 1
Author Spoonss Posted April 25, 2015 Author Posted April 25, 2015 Thank you for the insight, normally drinking doesnt effect me like it has in the past 2 months. I am having outbursts and causing her to feel like **** and ruining a really great thing. I think I need to stop completely. Shes really worth fighting for but she wont respond to any messages I send her or calls. I really ****ed this up. And kind of am losing it right now. I think you may be right because the drinking is definitely affecting my life in a negative way at the moment and i guess im not as in control as I thought. Now i probably just lost one of the best girls ive met in years. Is there anything i should do to show her i really do care about her? I need some advice. Or should i just walk away from it.
Mrin Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 Honestly? This is what I would do. I'd go to AA and stop drinking. Once you hit the 1 month mark I would just send her an email saying what you've accomplished. And that you learned a very good life lesson. Don't ask for her back. Don't do anything but share your accomplishment. Do the same when you hit month 2 of sobriety. And 3. 1
Twigyy Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 Yeah, if you knew that drinking would push your ex away you should have stopped. Now you've learnt it the hard way you should know what you really need to do. Just saying that you ****ed up is not it..
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