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so guy said have her invest spend money on you. do i ask her to buy concert tickets?

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jw i wanna go im pretty sure not her cup of tea though but id like her to go to something with me wanted to ask??

d0nnivain Established Member

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It's very rude to ask anybody to buy you things. Demanding that some girl you are trying to date buy you expensive concert tickets is not the way to win her heart.

 

The people who told you that have a misguided notion about what it means to be assertive & confident in a relationship. Both of those are good. Playing games & making somebody prove to you that they are equally invested in a relationship based on how much money they spend is crass at best.

 

Don't do it.

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Whoever told you that is an idiot and that will make the woman run. A real man pays for everything unless the woman insists. Even then, you still shouldn't let her pay to show your decision is the final one. Don't be a b*tch. One of the main thing that attracts woman to you is your ability to provide. You will scare her off by asking her to pay for something so expensive.

 

If you insist she pays for some things, start small - buy you a t-shirt, buy you some food, coffee and you don't do it in advance. It has to be spontaneous. Say you forgot your wallet in the car or something.

 

Women just say they want to be treated equally and to pay for their own things but the truth is ANYONE - male or female, would like to be given things without paying for them themselves.

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Whoever your little friend is you're taking advice from doesn't know what he's talking about and may even be trying to sabotage you.

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jw i wanna go im pretty sure not her cup of tea though but id like her to go to something with me wanted to ask??

 

Asking her to buy you tickets to a concert you are sure is not her cup of tea is pretty rude. Why would you think that would be a good idea? Buy it yourself if you want to go. If you want her to go with you buy it for her and invite her along.

 

I would never ask a guy I'm seeing to buy me tickets to a concert esp one I am sure he isn't into. If I want him to go with me to a concert that he may not be into I'd get him tickets to come with me to try it, not say "Hey can you buy me tickets to a concert you don't want to go to and buy some for yourself too and then we can go together?" Come on...:laugh:

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You really need to pick better friends. He doesn't have your best interests at heart--he just wants to laugh at you getting handed your behind when she drops you off at the mall over that.

 

How is his dating life going with that tack? I'll bet he sits alone wishing someone would email him on Badoo.

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problem is i feel cheated last year i bought tickets for girl took her wrestling match (she said shed pay me back) literally after that week she was acting weird she went on vacation came back basically didnt wanna see me anymore (lost interest out of nowhere) I just feel like it would be carpy waste of time but i want girl to go with so i dont know what to do HELP!?

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problem is i feel cheated last year i bought tickets for girl took her wrestling match (she said shed pay me back) literally after that week she was acting weird she went on vacation came back basically didnt wanna see me anymore (lost interest out of nowhere) I just feel like it would be carpy waste of time but i want girl to go with so i dont know what to do HELP!?

 

There are no guarantees in dating.

 

You don't get dollar for dollar value out of it. You're supposed to just have fun.

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problem is i feel cheated last year i bought tickets for girl took her wrestling match (she said shed pay me back) literally after that week she was acting weird she went on vacation came back basically didnt wanna see me anymore (lost interest out of nowhere) I just feel like it would be carpy waste of time but i want girl to go with so i dont know what to do HELP!?

 

If you feel like it would be a waste of time then just don't go. You aren't dating to cut expenses on things you want to do, you're dating to meet and get to know people.

 

Since you said it wouldn't be her cup of tea anyway and you think it's a waste of time, just go by yourself. Take her somewhere you might both like.

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The fact that a girl took your tickets last year does not entitle you to tickets from a different girl this year.

 

The better answer is take women on less expensive dates you can afford in the beginning. Go to expensive things like concerts with your buddies where you all pay your own way.

 

After you have been in an established relationship with someone for a while & you know you can trust them then you can do more expensive things & it's more likely those things will be reciprocated especially if you maturely discuss your fiscal expectations.

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