simplyconfused Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I been dating this guy for 6-7 months now and he is not affectionate. He is not even keen on compliments. When I asked him what he feels towards me he said he cares about me and does have feelings for me. Is it time to move on? My ex was much more affectionate and I find it difficult understanding this guy.
curiousnycgirl Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Some people are just not comfortable expressing their feelings - your b/f could be one of them, I know my b/f is! First question how does he act? Does he make you feel special/treasured/cared for? Second question have you discussed this with him? While my b/f does not naturally express affection, at times he seems to really need validation from me. It was during one of these exchanges that I said, gee I don't think I've ever heard that from you. About a week later, out of nowhere, he said something very complimentary. Then this weekend - he did it again. So what I'm trying to say is that it does sink in - at some point he may react. Overall I guess the decision on breaking up with him will all depend on whether or not this relationship is giving you what you want and need. If your only complaint is that he's not affectionate/complimentary - and the rest is awesome, you may want to think twice. On the other hand if those things are very important to you - perhaps you do need a change. Really it is all up to you.
Author simplyconfused Posted April 19, 2005 Author Posted April 19, 2005 well i know he is interested in me, but think that's as far as it goes. No he doesn't make me feel special..I have this feeling like he is dating someone else as well. Thanks a lot for your advice though
faux Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by simplyconfused I been dating this guy for 6-7 months now and he is not affectionate. He is not even keen on compliments. When I asked him what he feels towards me he said he cares about me and does have feelings for me. Is it time to move on? My ex was much more affectionate and I find it difficult understanding this guy. Does this guy you are dating know that it is important for you to hear these things from him? Does he know that you want to be complimented more often, and that you want him to tell you about his feelings in depth? Did you ever tell him the things you wanted to hear, and the things that are important to you about communication? Have you considered that he simply may not think you need to, or want to hear those things? If you don't tell him, how would he know?
Skullcrusher Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by simplyconfused I been dating this guy for 6-7 months now and he is not affectionate. He is not even keen on compliments. When I asked him what he feels towards me he said he cares about me and does have feelings for me. Is it time to move on? My ex was much more affectionate and I find it difficult understanding this guy. That's your problem sister. You think that all men you date in the future should equate to your former ex. Each man is different, take it like that. Also, if you aren't affectionate to him, he won't be so either. Why should men do all the touchy-feely. That's a woman's job.
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