ayeshau Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Ok so I met a guy on tinder and I thought it was amazing, him and I both talked about how it was crazy how similar we were. Probably ten minutes after the date he texted about something we talked about during the date, and then asked me when I would see him next? I told him when I was free and we made plans. I thought the second date was even better. He texted after the second date again, to make sure I got home, we talked for a bit but he didnt make plans this time to go on another date. I really like him so I texted him saying " Let me know which one of these days you're free so I can repay you whatever the equivalent of 500 martinis is in whiskey" because he bought me a bunch of martinis our second date, he replied saying "hahaha will do, let's try sometime next week?" I felt like this was kind of a blow off text, I texted him wednesday and was obviously implying the coming weekend but he basically just said he's too busy this weekend from his text. I feel like I'm either really overthinking things or I'm getting blown off by this guy.
losangelena Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Ok so I met a guy on tinder and I thought it was amazing, him and I both talked about how it was crazy how similar we were. Probably ten minutes after the date he texted about something we talked about during the date, and then asked me when I would see him next? I told him when I was free and we made plans. I thought the second date was even better. He texted after the second date again, to make sure I got home, we talked for a bit but he didnt make plans this time to go on another date. I really like him so I texted him saying " Let me know which one of these days you're free so I can repay you whatever the equivalent of 500 martinis is in whiskey" because he bought me a bunch of martinis our second date, he replied saying "hahaha will do, let's try sometime next week?" I felt like this was kind of a blow off text, I texted him wednesday and was obviously implying the coming weekend but he basically just said he's too busy this weekend from his text. I feel like I'm either really overthinking things or I'm getting blown off by this guy. It could be either one, honestly. I mean y'all have been out twice, so it's not like you necessarily have to be out with each other every weekend. Maybe he's got something going on this weekend and next week would be better. A lot of people on LS will say, "oh, if he's not making definite plans to see you, then he must not be that into you," but I'd say, don't automatically make that assumption. Just cool your heels a bit. If the weekend comes and goes and a week goes by and you haven't heard from him, OK, then cut him loose, but in the meantime, be busy with your own life and wait for him to come around. Remember, you've gone out twice—this is not the time to start reading into things. Easier said than done, I know.
Leegh Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I think it's too early to tell, but I would not contact him, unless he contacts you first. I think guys still do enjoy a chase, in other words, try not to be too available and let him miss you. You sound great, but try to be patient and hopefully he'll be in touch with you.
Redhead14 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Ok so I met a guy on tinder and I thought it was amazing, him and I both talked about how it was crazy how similar we were. Probably ten minutes after the date he texted about something we talked about during the date, and then asked me when I would see him next? I told him when I was free and we made plans. I thought the second date was even better. He texted after the second date again, to make sure I got home, we talked for a bit but he didnt make plans this time to go on another date. I really like him so I texted him saying " Let me know which one of these days you're free so I can repay you whatever the equivalent of 500 martinis is in whiskey" because he bought me a bunch of martinis our second date, he replied saying "hahaha will do, let's try sometime next week?" I felt like this was kind of a blow off text, I texted him wednesday and was obviously implying the coming weekend but he basically just said he's too busy this weekend from his text. I feel like I'm either really overthinking things or I'm getting blown off by this guy. I always say, you don't know until you know Don't even think about it. If he calls you for another date, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll know. I generally tend to tell myself that a guy doesn't really exist until he's at least calling consistently and/or asking for dates. In other words, I don't think about them very much in between. It's not that I don't like them, it's just that I don't waste a lot of mental or emotional energy on them after only one or two dates. Even later than that sometimes 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I always say, you don't know until you know Don't even think about it. If he calls you for another date, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll know. I generally tend to tell myself that a guy doesn't really exist until he's at least calling consistently and/or asking for dates. In other words, I don't think about them very much in between. It's not that I don't like them, it's just that I don't waste a lot of mental or emotional energy on them after only one or two dates. Even later than that sometimes Haha.. Oh come on Red. If you met a guy that knocked your socks off early on, you're telling me that you wouldn't be wondering about him? It's human nature. If you have been able to compartmentalize that well, it's because you didn't meet the right type of guy. Now of course, it's still a good idea to remain busy, focus on your life/friends, and not be clingy. However, it's perfectly OK if there's great chemistry to admit that someone is on your mind. 1
Mjm1014 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 OP, I think you are thinking into things too much. Early on in dating it's not uncommon for one or both partners to only want to set dates on week nights, verses the weekend. I dated a girl for almost 2 months before she would make plans to hang out with me on a weekend (she was busy being with friends)...take it slow and see where it goes. Also, when I really like someone, I'm hesitant asking her to hang out on weekends (esp after only one or two dates), because I figure that's their time to spend wth their friends, and I feel like it comes on a little strong (possibly not a good way to think about it lol)...Maybe ask him if he's free then? He could possibly be hesitant to ask...
Redhead14 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Haha.. Oh come on Red. If you met a guy that knocked your socks off early on, you're telling me that you wouldn't be wondering about him? It's human nature. If you have been able to compartmentalize that well, it's because you didn't meet the right type of guy. Now of course, it's still a good idea to remain busy, focus on your life/friends, and not be clingy. However, it's perfectly OK if there's great chemistry to admit that someone is on your mind. I do think about them here and there, but in the end, if he doesn't want to see me or call me, there's no point in sitting there fretting and wondering. If it happens it happens. I'm not spending time thinking about why he isn't calling me or the why or why not of anything. I might think about how cute he was or funny or whatever, but I'm not spending time trying to figure out what he's thinking. I'm not allowing myself to get so invested in them after only a couple of dates. It takes more than that to knock my socks off. I might have had a really great time and he was good looking etc. but I need to know them better before my socks are knocked off. When they get to the point of knocking my socks off, more than my socks will come off 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 When they get to the point of knocking my socks off, more than my socks will come off Hahahaha.. Well you definitely live up to the color of your hair. Playfulness is hot. But the combo of your wit and your libido should be borderline illegal. Would put a guy in the mood constantly.
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 , he replied saying "hahaha will do, let's try sometime next week?" I felt like this was kind of a blow off text, I texted him wednesday and was obviously implying the coming weekend but he basically just said he's too busy this weekend from his text. I feel like I'm either really overthinking things or I'm getting blown off by this guy. You don't know this man. You had 2 dates with him and on one of those dates, you consumed several martinis so we have to discount your judgment just a bit. Because you don't know him, how do you know he's not legitimately busy? He may have had long term plans in place before he met you. Maybe he's going to a wedding, or communion, or family event. Maybe this is the week his company has a lot going on. You really don't know so why are you assuming he's lying to you? that's not a healthy place to start. Sit back. Relax. Wait until May. Yes, I said May. . .next month . . which btw is next Friday & see what he does. If you hear from him, great!. If you don't . . .you can call him once, the week of May 4 & try one more time but that's it. If you don't get a positive response, he's not that into you. Sorry.
Redhead14 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Hahahaha.. Well you definitely live up to the color of your hair. Playfulness is hot. But the combo of your wit and your libido should be borderline illegal. Would put a guy in the mood constantly. If the combination of wit and libido were illegal . . . I'd be a felony. "Cuff em, Dano!"
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Haha.. Oh come on Red. If you met a guy that knocked your socks off early on, you're telling me that you wouldn't be wondering about him? It's human nature. If you have been able to compartmentalize that well, it's because you didn't meet the right type of guy. Now of course, it's still a good idea to remain busy, focus on your life/friends, and not be clingy. However, it's perfectly OK if there's great chemistry to admit that someone is on your mind. ff, wasn't it you who told a male poster who had been dating a chick for a couple of weeks (and with whom he had sex twice), that she should NOT even be on his radar yet? I am pretty sure that was you....
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