Leegh Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Have you ever reached a point of truly not caring anymore, if you had a falling out and/or break-up with someone; perhaps an ex-spouse, sibling, co-worker, etc.? Speaking for myself, I had a disagreement with someone (not a romantic relationship) and we could not reach an agreement after several years, and there were quite a few unpleasant phone conversations, etc., and now the relationship has ended, and I don't really seem to care anymore. I have such low respect for this person, and I honestly don't care anymore about restoring a relationship with this person. Has anyone had a similar situation perhaps with an ex-spouse, where initially there was a lot of feeling, but after several years, and perhaps a divorce there was no feeling left, and if they tried to upset you, it "didn't get under your skin" anymore? In other words, whatever they may do to upset you, it doesn't make you mad, as it used to, because you simply don't care anymore. 1
No Limit Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Yes, my ex-best friend. She became everything she initially hated - snobby, shallow and so on. The last time I invited her she behaved like a 3 year old who wants its toy and wants it NOW. I waited for the school year to pass and then quickly cut contact - what I didn't know about was a fortunate turn of events, as her family was suddenly moving due to her father's job. The more negative side effect was her calling me daily for almost half a year until I accidentally picked up the phone; for the first few moments I did follow the conversation and "catching up" because she sounded normal again, the way I knew her - until two minutes into the call she got that condescending tone in her voice back and I quickly came up with a lame excuse and basically hung up on her. If 6 months of silence won't do, a straight rejection will work! 2
GoldieLox Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Yes, with a few people whom I either cut out of my life for one reason or another or in one case, had to leave mine for reasons of her own. It's been years for all 3 of them. I can't say I'm particularly pleased with any of them, but the situation really doesn't bother me anymore, nor would running into them (I did run into one of them. I was cordial. Can't say that would've happened 5-6 tears ago). I think a lot of it just comes with time... with time comes understanding and maturity. 2
Gloria25 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 (edited) I consider it my Ace of Base - "The Sign" moment When it comes to guys - YES!!! One day when you get up and you could care less if they come and go...Like Kiara in "No me importa nada" And, it is so freakin' weird...I mean, all the energy and time you spent on them and one day you ask yourself: "WTH/F was I doing/thinking?" When it comes to friendships, I have few people I allow to get close to me...so, it really hurts when it does happen. I mean, recently I cut things off with two gfs and it was long overdue, but it still makes me sad and wonder if I did the right thing. Gosh, one of them sent me a Xmas card and I didn't even bother to respond. Not sure if they did it with intent to give it another try in the friendship or they just had me on a list of peeps to send Xmas cards to. When it comes to family...trust me, it is also hard to do -even with the "sign". Like recently I sent (another) laptop for the "young adults" of my dead sis cuz they complained that they really need it for this and that. On top of them having a rough childhood, I also understand how hard things are now a days (especially where they live) and how along the way, people have extended help to me and my relatives...So, I bent and got them another laptop. Well, they couldn't share and mashed it against a wall. THAT WAS IT...I recently laid down the law with mum that they are not welcome in my home - cuz all this "oh, they just need help to get on their feet is poop". They need to sacrifice like my bro and I did. I joined the military and he contracted overseas...we both sacrificed our lives, health, and time to get money/education/etc. To start out our lives...they need to do the same. We didn't grow up w/celphones, laptops, clothing, etc...that they have. I know we are in a modern time where you need these things, but they mash up everything you send them...when you know it's scarce/rare to get something - you take care of it. They recently had to house-sit for my bro, who opened up his wallet and home to them too many of times - only for them to drive around in his vehicle and mess up his condo...When I, mum, and my inlaws visit other relatives WE clean up their place, shop for groceries, etc - even though we are the "guests"...bunch of ungrateful kids I tell ya. I also had another head bump with another set of relatives - who wanted to drop a bomb on me and have the audacity to lie and say I agreed to this/that and how mean I am to backtrack now...F-ing sick liars. Again, it was hard at first...but I could care less about them at this point. They do not occupy space/time in my head and/or heart. Edited April 24, 2015 by Gloria25 2
preraph Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Yeah, those are the best kind of break-ups. Counselors often recommend you do anything you can to work through things very thoroughly in the hopes of after all that has failed, you will be able to relax and just accept that it is over and it makes it easier to leave. 2
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