Author crazyyetsane Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Feel free to respond to any or all of the following questions... Has anyone ever broken up with someone whom they thought was beautiful, intelligent, kind, funny, talented, and strong of heart and mind because they became afraid or intimidated? Has amyone ever left one of these "too good to be true" boyfriends/girlfiends for someone who has less admirable qualities? Who you maybe don't feel that much of a connection to, but want to be with them because they are safe and there's not much chance of getting hurt? If yes, has anyone ever managed to fall in love with, or be happier with one of these "not as great" people than they were with the "too good to be true" ex. Has the the legacy of the wonderful ex kind of ruined many of your following relationships because nothing could compare? If so, at what point, and how did you come to realize that you let the best thing that you ever had, slip away?
Dorkette Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by crazyyetsane Feel free to respond to any or all of the following questions... Has anyone ever broken up with someone whom they thought was beautiful, intelligent, kind, funny, talented, and strong of heart and mind because they became afraid or intimidated? YES Has amyone ever left one of these "too good to be true" boyfriends/girlfiends for someone who has less admirable qualities? Who you maybe don't feel that much of a connection to, but want to be with them because they are safe and there's not much chance of getting hurt? NO If yes, has anyone ever managed to fall in love with, or be happier with one of these "not as great" people than they were with the "too good to be true" ex. N/A Has the the legacy of the wonderful ex kind of ruined many of your following relationships because nothing could compare? YES (but it hasn't been the case for a while now) If so, at what point, and how did you come to realize that you let the best thing that you ever had, slip away? I JUST WOKE UP ONE DAY AND THOUGHT "WHOLY CRAP WHAT IS GOING ON?" AND I KNEW.
Dorkette Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 I should add to this: "Has the the legacy of the wonderful ex kind of ruined many of your following relationships because nothing could compare? YES (but it hasn't been the case for a while now)" It also helped me see the type of man that better mesh with me.
Merin Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Honestly I don't have an EX that I miss and wish would come back.. My EX's are EX's for good reason... I will say that my last BF I really did Love but ended the relationship anyway.. it wasn't good for me and it hurt more to be with him then to be without him.
moon Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Has amyone ever left one of these "too good to be true" boyfriends/girlfiends for someone who has less admirable qualities? I think as the person who has been dumped, we'd like to believe this, but I doubt it. In my opinion sometimes people do break up because of life goals and a lack of compatibility, but I think the people that do get dumped are usually great people for somebody else. I think we have to keep that in mind. Anyway, I don't think this really answered your question, but just reading your post made me realize that sometimes I sort of wonder the same thing, but I think in the whole grand scheme of things, most people don't break up because people are great and they know they are going to miss them. That's not the reason. The reasons have to do with other things. In the end the dumpers break up with the dumpee in spite of some really good qualities. I mean they probably wouldn't have dated the person if they didn't think they were great, beautiful and all that from the beginning.....so don't buy into it that the opposite is true later.
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