Marek Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I have a class with this one cute girl. The other week she did a group presentation and she was a really good public speaker. I have never talked to her. But after the speech, later on in the evening, I sent her an email saying that I enjoyed her speech and thought she was quite the orator. (I used the college's email system -- you just need to know the persons full name to send them an email.) Anyway, a couple of days later she sent a reply, saying how she appreciated me commenting on her public speaking skills; and that it was good to hear recognition for a job well done. Anyway, how do I proceed from here? Do I send another email back? If so, what should I write? I don't speak to her in class as we all sit in our designated groups. I could ask if she wants to grab a coffee sometime but I'm not sure if she'd be weirded out by it. What would YOU do? Thanks!
smackie9 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 You walk up to her after class and Say "Hi, my name is _____." Then do a quick chat about the class or her speech, then ask if she would like to go for a coffee. Never ever ask for a date via text, email, etc. Do it in person. And why would it be weird? Guys do it everyday. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I agree. Approach her after class. Introduce yourself. Ask her for coffee. No she won't be weirded out by it. You are somebody in her class, not a random stranger.
Author Marek Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 The thing is, we've been in class together for the past 7 weeks. And she is NEVER alone. So do I pull her aside and ask her out to coffee. I don't know, I just feel like I might creep her out. I feel like a creep when considering asking girls for a coffee, drink, etc.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I have a class with this one cute girl. The other week she did a group presentation and she was a really good public speaker. I have never talked to her. But after the speech, later on in the evening, I sent her an email saying that I enjoyed her speech and thought she was quite the orator. (I used the college's email system -- you just need to know the persons full name to send them an email.) Anyway, a couple of days later she sent a reply, saying how she appreciated me commenting on her public speaking skills; and that it was good to hear recognition for a job well done. Anyway, how do I proceed from here? Do I send another email back? If so, what should I write? I don't speak to her in class as we all sit in our designated groups. I could ask if she wants to grab a coffee sometime but I'm not sure if she'd be weirded out by it. What would YOU do? Thanks! Just know in the future that people might think emailing them by getting their name off a class roster as opposed to talking to them directly is awkward, unsociable and/or shy. And yes, women/people care about that kind of stuff. I don't care about that kind of stuff, so there's a chance she might not either, so just go for it.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 OP you already invested too much interest in her by sending an E-Mail when you have no rapport with this girl. Sure - its easy to find each other's EMAIL out, but if she didn't give it to you, its somewhat unannounced especially given the content of the E-Mail. She might think you're creeping on her a bit, so I would talk to her in class without delay and develop a personal rapport. ALWAYS talk to a girl in person first, don't cop-out and do it online (unless it's OLD of course).
Vegeta2 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 You haven't established a rapport with her before emailing her so I think she would be weided out by that. You can still try though but don't be suprised at the results. Its important to check first if she is out of your league. How hot is she?
TheBathWater Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 I have a class with this one cute girl. The other week she did a group presentation and she was a really good public speaker. I have never talked to her. But after the speech, later on in the evening, I sent her an email saying that I enjoyed her speech and thought she was quite the orator. (I used the college's email system -- you just need to know the persons full name to send them an email.) Anyway, a couple of days later she sent a reply, saying how she appreciated me commenting on her public speaking skills; and that it was good to hear recognition for a job well done. Anyway, how do I proceed from here? Do I send another email back? If so, what should I write? I don't speak to her in class as we all sit in our designated groups. I could ask if she wants to grab a coffee sometime but I'm not sure if she'd be weirded out by it. What would YOU do? Thanks! I would have approached her in person and not over email like you did. This is not online dating. But since that already happened, I would approach her as soon as you can and tell her you've noticed her and tell her (don't ask her) she should grab a drink with you on Thursday night. She might say no, but I think the experience will good for you and make the next approach easier on you.
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