katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 So I guess she mislead me. Oh well, I guess I will move on. Well yeah girls lie, she used me for sex. No she didn't mislead you, and no she didn't "use" you for sex. She simply CHANGED HER MIND after having a date/sex with you! That's not uncommon.. You just gotta chalk it up and move on. Next!
Redhead14 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I've thought that this girl was what I wanted to go out with. Because she was a nice girl and creative, and I loved her personality a lot, and I also felt there was a chemistry between us. Always manage your emotions and expectations especially in the very early dating period. Chemistry and/or endorphin high can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. Which in your case did happen. She told you she didn't want a relationship and you still continued to try to figure out how to see her again. Maybe there was chemistry for you, but it sounds like it was just lust for her. My definition of chemistry does not include that feeling you get on the first few dates, which to me is just an endorphin high and/or lust. It's a good thing but that's not chemistry. Chemistry is a connection on a deeper level than you wouldn't possibly go to during or after only one or even two dates. Chemistry is about whether the ability to bond and be compatible exists -- do our lives, attitudes, experiences blend or mix well. Can we talk to each other about anything and everything, are we comfortable and secure enough to talk about things honestly and be ourselves? Do we share good communication skills and conflict resolution skills? Do we make each other feel respected, secure and do we trust each other? These are things you can't know early on. Do we compliment each other on an emotional level? Do we share enough common interests and a few that are different so that we can learn new things from each other. That's my take anyway. It works for me at least.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I don't believe she wants FWB....I don't believe she wants anything with the OP. I know that sounds harsh, but he needs to face reality so he can move on.. She would not have dumped him and then blocked him if she wanted anything, including FWB.. Ahh guess I didn't read closer. But yeah I stand by my statement, don't have sex on the first date if you want a relationship
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I totally agree with you on what you said above. Well after sex that we had that night, I had a lot of emotions with her, what does it mean? Because my feelings were developing with her.
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