catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Hi, There’s a girl I have met online, we have met and had a nice date, everything was fine and then in the night we had sex which was really amazing. The next day I told her how much I have enjoyed with her that day and told her to meet up again soon but she told me that she is not looking for a relationship right now and that our lives is different right now and then I told her about my feelings but I told her that I want us to know each other better and all and I got confused of why her behaviour was like this I thought our date was great. She told me that she had a really nice time with me and me too to her and after I have said all my feelings, she blocked me on Facebook and whatsapp. I’m so confused about this trying to figure out of what happened to this situation….please help! Also she replied me back one text that I have told her how sorry I am for what happened and she said we can still be friends, that's cool. And I have texted her back to talk on whatsapp but she didn't reply me back and I'm still blocked on Facebook and whatsapp. I need to talk with her. Thank you
Frank2thepoint Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 She told you she didn't want a relationship. It was just one night of fun and sex. That's it. There is nothing you can do to change mind or her feelings. Delete her contact information and move on. 1
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I'm trying to move on but I can't keep my mind out of her because there's something about her and I still like her. I would like to give another shot to make it better. How can I make her to talk with me?
SunnySide0418 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I'm trying to move on but I can't keep my mind out of her because there's something about her and I still like her. I would like to give another shot to make it better. How can I make her to talk with me? You can't make her do anything. The more you push the more you will push her away. It was a fun night and good sex. It is what it is. This happens all the time. This is why it's better to wait to have sex..
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 If she texts me back to meet up again and if she is thinking of 'have a night of fun and sex' what shall I tell her then?
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 You can't make her talk to you or like you. She got what she wanted -- a date & sex. She's done. Keep her as a fond memory but move on to someone who wants what you want -- a relationship.
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I will try to move on, if it happens again with the same girl to text me, what will happen next?
PegNosePete Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 You will either have another night of fun and sex, or you won't. Those are the only two outcomes here. There is zero potential for anything more. 1
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Why do people want to have one night stand? I don't understand this. When you have sex with someone, the feelings are starting to develop.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 You're hung up on someone that doesn't want you. I understand what you are feeling, but believe me it's not healthy for you to try convincing her or holding on to her. Imagine this. She calls you up again, you get excited, you guys maybe hook up again, and poof, she reiterates what she's already said to you. She doesn't want a relationship with you. Now you are back to square one again, heartbroken, angry, confused, and longing for her. Do you really want to go through that all over again? It's a downward spiral, where you'll be miserable, because you refuse to acknowledge and act upon her lack of wanting a relationship with you. She hurt you once, which means she can hurt you again. Delete her contact information, remove her from all social media, and go no contact. Cut her out of your life and move on.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I'm trying to move on but I can't keep my mind out of her because there's something about her and I still like her. I would like to give another shot to make it better. How can I make her to talk with me? My guess is that she sensed your needy nature and that's why she blew you off. I mean really man. Getting THIS attached over one date/sex once? When a girl knows that you're WAY more into her, than she is into you, you get the "I don't want a relationship" speech. So just try to forget about her.
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 It will take some time for me to move on, I can't move on quickly because my mind is still on that girl but I will try my best to move on anyway. You're right on what you said above, but the only thing is that why do people want one night stand?
PegNosePete Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 why do people want one night stand? Because they enjoy sex but don't want a relationship.
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I've thought that this girl was what I wanted to go out with. Because she was a nice girl and creative, and I loved her personality a lot, and I also felt there was a chemistry between us.
SunnySide0418 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I've thought that this girl was what I wanted to go out with. Because she was a nice girl and creative, and I loved her personality a lot, and I also felt there was a chemistry between us. How old are you? You seem very young and inexperienced.
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 She told you she didn't want a relationship. It was just one night of fun and sex. That's it. There is nothing you can do to change mind or her feelings. Delete her contact information and move on. Night of fun for him maybe, for her not so much obviously. If I had to venture a guess, it would be that something about the sex (and you) turned her off. Just cause you thought it was amazing, doesn't necessarily mean she did. In fact, given she dumped you immediately thereafter, it sounds like it wasn't amazing for her at all.. Agree with Frank, above. Delete and go no contact. Sorry.
fred123 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 At least u got to kiss her and sleep with her. Iv had a girl i really liked and cared about and never even got that so count yourself lucky!
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 27. Sorry it's because I'm in a sad mood that's all. Probably it's about sex that she didn't enjoy it.
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 But she said that she had a really nice time that night though. I'm trying to figure this out but if that's what she wants not to talk to me anymore, then that's her problem not mine. I told her that I still care about her and I still like her and she said that we can be friends. Furthermore I don't know what is happening. From what it seems she is not interested I think like you said above.
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 But she said that she had a really nice time that night though. I'm trying to figure this out but if that's what she wants not to talk to me anymore, then that's her problem not mine. I told her that I still care about her and I still like her and she said that we can be friends. Furthermore I don't know what is happening. From what it seems she is not interested I think like you said above. Don't believe what she "says" ....girls lie. So do guys but that's a different thread. Her actions tell you everything you need to know... She dumped you pretty much immediately after your date. THAT's what you pay attention to. Move on.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 OP, she probably just wants to have a FWB arrangement. Honestly what did you expect having sex with her on the first date? If you WANTED this girl to be something more, you wouldn't have had sex on your first date.
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 OP, she probably just wants to have a FWB arrangement. Honestly what did you expect having sex with her on the first date? If you WANTED this girl to be something more, you wouldn't have had sex on your first date. I don't believe she wants FWB....I don't believe she wants anything with the OP. I know that sounds harsh, but he needs to face reality so he can move on.. She would not have dumped him and then blocked him if she wanted anything, including FWB..
Author catadult Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 So I guess she mislead me. Oh well, I guess I will move on. Well yeah girls lie, she used me for sex.
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