alexjames Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months (Today is 8 months ironically!). In the past, we've had arguments and had times where we haven't spoke for a couple of days or so. But we love each other so much, we are already saving money to try and rent a place and we constantly speak about the future, we've had relationships in the past, but we both say that we are the one for each other and how we can see our lives being spent together. We have even got a holiday abroad booked for June. However, on Wednesday evening, we had a massive row. She told me that she is getting extra days at work, which I said is brilliant. I said (and she totally misunderstood this bit) that its great she has these extra days, but it'll mean we will have to try and find out ways of seeing each other as it will be harder with her working these extra days. She thought I was saying that I don't want her working and that I was being ''selfish''. She said she didn't want to see me last night (I was supposed to stay at hers) but I had to pop round to pick up some of my medications. When I went to hers, she told me that she is so angry with me, she doesn't know what she feels about me and that theres no point in being together. she told me to leave, and we agreed that I will give her space and let her contact me when she wants. She hasn't changed her relationship status etc on facebook and her profile pic is still of us, which im not sure is a good sign?? I will give her this space, but im just terrified and feel sick worrying that shes going to end it!
Author alexjames Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I know this will sound a silly thing to say, but she has just liked a status I put on facebook this morning, I really don't know whats happening and am reading too much into everything!
elaine567 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 However, on Wednesday evening, we had a massive row. She told me that she is getting extra days at work, which I said is brilliant. I said (and she totally misunderstood this bit) that its great she has these extra days, but it'll mean we will have to try and find out ways of seeing each other as it will be harder with her working these extra days. She thought I was saying that I don't want her working and that I was being ''selfish''. Sounds like her reaction indicates this is about more than just a few extra days working. I think you have to first ask yourself Are you selfish in other ways? Are you controlling even? Are you clingy, needy perhaps? You say medication, what medication? 1
ZiggyZoo Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I'm concerned about the fact that you've only been together eight months and you have arguments so bad that you don't speak for days. That speaks to very bad communication and problem solving skills. And with this latest one is the worst. If her reaction to a misunderstanding is to kick you out and end it, I really don't see much of a future. I'm with elaine567, it looks like this is about more than what it appears on the surface. If this isn't the argument that ends this relationship, it's only a matter of time until one very similar does. Once the "we should end it" card has been played, it's been my experience that some serious work needs to be done to save things. More so than liking stuff on FB. I'm talking about an honest conversation where you two talk about the fact that there's a problem with how you're doing things. It isn't going to fix itself, it's going to take work.
Chi townD Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Yeah, that's weird. She's flying off the handle like that for something that is barely an argument. I mean, that's just a simple misunderstanding that could have been cleared up and forgotten within 5 minutes. Starting to think that there's a lot more to this story that you're not telling us. Maybe with a little more context, we could paint a better picture for you.
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