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After the first date, where to go from here?


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For the last couple of weeks (2 or 3), I have been sitting next to this one girl in class. We laugh, tease, and joke around and have a lot in common. There is a good vibe between us and she blushes and laughs a lot at what I say. We hug at the beginning and end of class and i playfully touch her during class occasionally. So, I asked her out to a dinner date last weekend and the date went well but my duma** didn't kiss her goodnight at the end. Anyways, this week we sat next to each other (tues/ths) and the same old joking, teasing, etc. during class. After class, I asked her if she had plans for the weekend, but turns out she told me about how much work she has for the weekend. I then told her how I wanted to go out into the city (we go to school in NY) and do something fun like go have a picnic in central park. She wasn't fan of the picnic idea and said that she will not be free this weekend regardless. At that point I was in a rush and had to go and told her I hope we can still hang out and parted ways. I'm not very experienced with dating so I'm not exactly sure what to do moving forward. I don't want to ask her on a date over the weekend since she is busy, but should probably text her a little and flirt with her just to stay in some contact? (We have texted a little before). Next week is the last week of class for the semester, and I definitely want to ask her out and get things going before summer (we live near each other anyway). We have class together on tuesday and thursday, should i wait until thursday again and ask out for the weekend? Should I tell her that I like her while asking her out or at all? And what are some good date ideas for a girl who is reserved, introverted, and not necessarily into adventure?

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You had a good 1st date

 

You asked her on a second date & she said I am busy this weekend

 

If she was really interested in you she would of defantly wanted to see you.

 

I'd say ask one more time.

 

Say something like I am free this weekend would you like to do (What ever you decide) at 7.

 

Set a place/time you wanna meet.

 

If she says I will let you know or sorry I am busy this weekend etc then let her come back to you with a date/time she is free to see you.

 

Try get her number so you can call/text her to set the dates up

 

still talk to her in class etc

Edited by GTR King
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It's still too cold for a picnic. While it would have been better had she offered you alternative dates / times when she was free, let this weekend go. Next Tuesday, ask her to do something else next weekend. If you don't get a yes to that, give up.

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