thehwang Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 (edited) So I have been dating a lovely girl for about a month now. I feel that we had great chemistry. I always make her laugh. She told me that I was cool dude, and really liked my sense of humor and how I am never too serious. I know she is attracted to me because she made the first move in physical contact like holding hands, kissing, etc. Now we normally chat on the phone for long periods. But a couple weeks ago she didn’t answer or return my call for the first time. I waited a couple days and called her back, which she picked up and then we had our typical 2 hr convo. I called her again a few days ago and she did not pick up. I tried again today and again no pick up. I sent her a text saying to call back when she was free and decided to be done with calling because I did not want to look too clingy. She responded saying she was out at a party and that she will talk to me soon. My friend told me she is probably trying to play 'hard to get' games and gauge how serious I am. She knows my group of friends are very good with women, in fact one of them sort of played my girl’s bestfriend not too long ago so I kind of understand that she may be seeing how hard I try. But part of me says she may be losing interest. Opinions? Should I really expect her to call me back? Edited April 24, 2015 by thehwang
h0000 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Do you want someone who plays stupid games like this 2
Author thehwang Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Should I not? I kind of like the idea of working hard for a girl and getting my trophy at the end.. But I tend to overthink things alot and drive myself nuts haha.. By the way this is only the 3rd girl that I am dating and really like.
Price2Play Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 (edited) Save the 2hr conversations for when you are out on a date. And as far as "expecting" her to call, it's probably doubtful if you suspect she's losing interest. Yeah bad sign if she's ignoring missed calls, not even a reply text? Call her set-up the next date, if she declines you know where you stand. Edited April 24, 2015 by Price2Play
El Pallasso Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 2 HOUR CONVERSATIONS? Holy ****. No wonder she's not picking up your calls. She is not playing hard to get. She's getting bored of you because you don't give her the necessary space to miss you. You are smothering her which in turn only drives her away. You need to pull back and stop calling. If she doesn't call you in two days, move on to other women and take it as a lesson learned. 1
Author thehwang Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Really.. I only talk to her once a week and never texted her. She always seems to try to keep the convo going. I felt like she wanted to be on the phone for that long. But ill keep a note thanks.
h0000 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Should I not? I kind of like the idea of working hard for a girl and getting my trophy at the end.. But I tend to overthink things alot and drive myself nuts haha.. By the way this is only the 3rd girl that I am dating and really like. Working hard to get a girl and girl faking hard to get are two completely different things. since i never play games, if i ignored calls from a guy that means i lost interest.
melissacus Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Girls can only play hard to get if they are not too interested in a guy. Playing hard to get=not replying to a text right away, not overtly flirting, sassing, missing a call then calling back in a couple hours, etc. If you call a girl and she doesn't call back within a couple days, she's not very interested. Maybe I'm generalizing too much. But that's how it is with me. I definitely have boundaries with a guy in the beginning and don't give too much too soon, but if I'm truly interested in him, I'll be too excited and enjoy talking to him too much to not return his call for days.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Not good. I would never purposely ignore a call if I were really interested. I would just let her go. Playing game is not a good sign; it indicates immaturity and she probably is playing these games with other guys too. Don't bother with this one.
fred123 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Shes not playing games shes just not interested. You think she would do this to a guy she really likes?
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 It's hard to say but I'm leaning toward she's not that interested. Even girls that play hard to get pick up the 2nd time you call.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Dial down on the contact a bit. Instead of every couple days, try once a week. Also are you setting up dates still? If you stopped setting up dates she may be losing interest.
Vegeta2 Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 She probably found some other guy with more to offer. Women do that all the time
Gaeta Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 She is tired of those long phone conversations. Set up dates, touch base by phone or text daily if you wish but keep it short! She is not playing games, she is trying to gain back some of her space.
guest569 Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 I'm also leaning towards loss of interest. I don't think someone who is genuinely interested would play a game like that. The only time I have waited to gauge a man's interest was by not initiating contact, and waiting for him to call me. This was due to my insecurities. I wouldn't ignore him for days. If she wants more space, there are better ways to do so than ignoring someone. ie. telling them.
Gary S Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 well, if she were falling in love, she should be getting easier to get ahold of after a month.... people fall in love over time, so if everything was going just right, she should love you more by now, not less. So yes, it's a bad sign. Just leave a message when you call, let her call you back. Hopefully she calls you back within 24. You don't have a foundation for a relationship for 2 months.
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