zipzip03 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I'm a freshman, she's a junior, we both go to the same college. I write in the student run newspaper and she's my editor. I met her in the fall semester in one of my classes oddly enough but I had a gf at the time. We both had to go the same place after class so we'd walk together and chat. The chemistry between us was just incredible. I'd never talked to a girl and felt so in tune with everything about her. Winter semester rolls around I'm still in the same relationship with my old gf. She ends up trying to cheat on me halfway through the semester and I dump her right off. Fast forward to Wednesday, I asked the girl from before to hang out and chat at a coffee shop. We talk for an hour nonstop having an absolutely wonderful time together before she excuses herself to study for her finals that were today. The big problem that I'm struggling with now is she's leaving for the whole summer. She's going to Mexico, then DC, then Spain and she won't be back till the start of school next year. I really really like this girl and I think she likes me too. I wasn't sure what to do when I said goodbye to her yesterday so I hugged her and she seemed receptive to that. Is it fair, or right or even smart of me to tell her how I feel about her? It feels weird trying to start something with somebody knowing you're not going to see them for 4 months (she leaves Tuesday). On the other hand, I've been around and met quite a few girls and there's something really special about this girl that I don't want to miss out on. Any suggestions cause I'm at a loss at this point?
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I wouldn't pour your feelings out to her. It's just not appropriate until you've dated some. But what I would do is tell her that you broke up with your girlfriend and some next fall, you should be healed and looking for a new girlfriend and give her a meaningful flirting look and smile so she knows that may be her. And then tell her you want to stay in touch while she's gone.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 This is a girl you've interacted with plenty of times. You've also been pining over her. Since you know she is leaving for the summer, you have to focus on romance from the get go. With that said, a first kiss on a first date, will be the building block over a hug. Granted, since she is going to be leaving for the whole summer, and you're both young, realistically I wouldn't count on anything happening anyways. But if you want to have a chance of sticking in her mind, you need to create romance from the get go. Then you build on that with the time that you have.
Author zipzip03 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 To add some more information, she's really skated around saying the word friend on several occasions (never once even said the word in any reference to me). She'll mention to me if I talk about some place I'd like to go one day and she'll say "oh take me" and laugh. I just really get the vibes from her that she likes me, she's leaning in close over the table in conversation. Whenever I see her she's got her nose buried in her phone but when she's talking to me it's on silent and she doesnt even look at it. We're both constantly laughing at the things we say and obviously since we have talked so much we have a lot in common so conversation never seems to dull down. We could have talked for hours yesterday if not for out finals being today. She must know I have some interest in her because I asked to spend time with her, but I didn't really let anything on in our time spent together because I wasn't sure how I wanted to play this whole thing with her leaving and what not. I'd love to tell her that I think she's pretty and smart and has a wonderful personality but it almost seems unfair to say that to somebody when you know they're booked to be out the country for the next few months already. What I would give to have not been in a relationship when I met her. Had myself convinced the grass isn't greener but that backfired on me big time.
Vercetti Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Hah, just tell her there is something wish to talk with her about when she gets back. Let her think and wonder for a few months. Then when she gets back, if still like her...ask her out. BTW you should be dating when she is gone. Why pause life or deal with long distance stress for something that's not established.
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