zachsack Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 So this girl agreed to hang out with me alone tomorrow. Her mom was going to drop her off, and it would just be me and her for maybe 2-3 hours. In my area theres a shopping center (mainly food), and a park (kinda small, but with a lake!). Other than that, its all houses. Also, we planned to eat dinner together too, so I was wondering if I should pay for the meal. (Nothing fancy, just pizza, Subway, a Mexican restaurant, or McDonald's). I am kind of worried, since I want us to have a great time, especially on our first time out together, that she would be bored out of her skull. Heres what I planned to do. -When she gets dropped off, we go to the shopping center, get a drink, maybe a snack (should I pay?). -Head towards the park, since theirs a trail along the lake, maybe walk along it. All the while trying to know each other better. -Head back, get dinner. (Again, should I pay?) and just sit there, talk so more, joke some more until her mom comes. Is that a good enough plan? Also, the reason I ask about paying is because people say that you shouldn't pay for her on the first date, as she'll see you as a "provider". But I'm only 15, I don't see how I can "provide" all her financial needs. Plus, at school, she usually forgets her lunch, and I always ask if she wants anything from the lunch line, she would always be reluctant and shy on telling me what she wants. Just saying "get me whatever you want". So I would just get her a cookie, since she didn't want anything else. Later on, when we sit down, we would share a drink, which I asked if she wanted, but still met with a reluctant answer.
d0nnivain Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 If you asked her on the date, you do need to offer to pay. It's OK to do something within your means. I'd skip the initial drink (or bring bottles of water with you). Offer her one. Walk around the lake. Then go back to the mall for the pizza. It sounds like a great date! Have a good time. 2
Gary S Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 If you think a happy meal is expensive, just wait until you get married kid! 1
Vercetti Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Just window shop the place. Can get to know lots about her bouncing to some clothing / music / movie / book stores. There will always be something in the background to trigger conversation. As for snacks, just get food and drink as needed...you buy first or half then she buys next or half. Nothing to stress about.
Author zachsack Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Just window shop the place. Can get to know lots about her bouncing to some clothing / music / movie / book stores. There will always be something in the background to trigger conversation. As for snacks, just get food and drink as needed...you buy first or half then she buys next or half. Nothing to stress about. Not a mall, just a shopping center with restaurants and a grocery store. If you think a happy meal is expensive, just wait until you get married kid! I don't think its expensive, I'm fine with paying. I was just wondering since people say if you pay for the first date, she'll think your her "provider" and just use you for money. Is it ok to ask to her out again the next week? Maybe something different like a movie, or the mall? Also, should I be the one to thank her, or she be the one to thank me at the end?
Vercetti Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 See how things go then ask her out again. During the date should pick up on things she likes and wants to do. If so then should be rather natural to invite her for such in near future. Don't stress about money, lots to do on the low. Free zoo days, perhaps botanical gardens, cheap theaters with older movies, art walks. Be creative with things she likes or things feel she would enjoy that you know about. Hell, if she tells you someplace thing she is doing going...you can always invite yourself to join her. 1
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 It's a first date, so you must pay. As you get to know each other, she will understand your monetary situation (that you don't have much) and you will just do inexpensive things. But her first date, you must pay. Also, she may tell her mom and dad about this date and you do not want her telling them she had to pay. 2
d0nnivain Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I don't think its expensive, I'm fine with paying. I was just wondering since people say if you pay for the first date, she'll think your her "provider" and just use you for money. Is it ok to ask to her out again the next week? Maybe something different like a movie, or the mall? Also, should I be the one to thank her, or she be the one to thank me at the end? Providers are life time commitments & you are no where near there. Also it's a bit of an antiquated notion when men went to work & women stayed home with the kids. Since normally both people work, the kind that want to free-load are gold diggers. Stay away from them but do always pay, not & in the future, if you are the one who set up the 1st date. If the date goes well it's OK to ask her out again. Perhaps wait a day so you have a reason to call her. You should thank her for coming out with you. She should thank you for treating her. Manners go both ways. Please try to relax & stop over thinking this & making yourself stressed. Relax. Be your best self & have a good time. Also start looking for a summer job. Dating gets expensive.
Author zachsack Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Providers are life time commitments & you are no where near there. Also it's a bit of an antiquated notion when men went to work & women stayed home with the kids. Since normally both people work, the kind that want to free-load are gold diggers. Stay away from them but do always pay, not & in the future, if you are the one who set up the 1st date. If the date goes well it's OK to ask her out again. Perhaps wait a day so you have a reason to call her. You should thank her for coming out with you. She should thank you for treating her. Manners go both ways. Please try to relax & stop over thinking this & making yourself stressed. Relax. Be your best self & have a good time. Also start looking for a summer job. Dating gets expensive. Alright. Should I ask her out on first date?
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