Chewybrwn Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 i have had a crush on my coworker for a few months now. i realized that the feelings were mutual when we exchanged numbers and promised to do something outside of work. the first time i went to his place, we watched movies and just cuddled. the second time we hung out, he came over to my place, we talked, watched movies and ended up having sex. he then asked if things would be awkward, and i replyed, only if we let it. eight hours later he called and said that it was all a mistake, that he wasn't ready for another relationship,(hence he had just recently gotten out of a three year relationship) and that we should just be friends. i was confused and things between us were awkward. eventually with time, things kind of went back to normal at work, but my feelings for him never changed. i couldnt help it anymore and wrote him an email stating that eventhough he was moving back to his hometown soon, that i still wanted some kind of interaction as good friends(along with how i felt about him). he replyed stating that he thought it wouldnt be a good idea for us to interact out of work so that i wouldn't get attached. about a week later he called me, wanting me to come over. the conversation we were having on the phone was weird. because i was at a freind's with lots of people around, he questioned everything about my surroundings. he was easily getting jealous and insecure about every guy's voice he heard in the background. and freaked out when i told him my freind's house was a guy. it was really late, i was drunk, and i was totally sure he was too, and i told him, i could only come for a little bit, but i couldnt stay overnight because of a early engagement i had in the morning. he kept trying to convince me to skip whatever i had to do because i couldnt spend the night, and in an overall result ended up just not going over there that night. does this mean anything. am i the confused lost one, or his the confused one that doesnt know what he wants? i really like this guy, and dont mind being patient and persitant with him, but i dont know if im wasting my time or what.
curiousnycgirl Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Personally I think he is confused and he needs to figure out what he wants before you continue anything with him. I am glad you did not end up going over there that night - sounds like he just wanted a booty call. You are not a toy that he can pull in and out of the closet when he feels like it. He had no right to be jealous when he called and you were with other men and he has no right to expect you to change your plans/engagements just because he called. You deserve better - we all do!
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