alexandramoreno123 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I’ve been in a relationship for the past 6 years, we’ve had our rough patches and have broken up but gotten back together because we really missed and loved each other. This time we got back together and got a new apartment, unfortunately his sister came to live with us, she has been coming to live with us every year as she comes because she only has a permanent resident card and has to come every year, She came back this year with a bun in the oven since her new boyfriend dumped her and she had nothing else to do, she is 34 years old and now has three daughters, when she arrived I told her this time things would be different she needed to start contributing towards cleaning the house and keeping her own things clean, after so many years of being with us she answered that she was mom and knew how to do these things and I didn’t have to tell her anything(I’m 27 years old no kids), as the days progressed she stayed home because she couldn’t work because she was pregnant, she was five weeks old, I asked if she could walk our dog and she said she couldn’t because of the pregnancy I was a little upset but I understood, I would come home from work and would see dishes on the sink or plates in the living room, she would not cook anything the whole day for herself even though I made sure I bought groceries for her and her child, when I approached her about this she became very defensive and this was the point where everything went south. After I confronted her about this our relationship was never the same, I decided to go another route and simply write a small paper the rules of the kitchen: i.e.:: please wash it if you use it, please put away dishes etc., I thought this would be less confrontational, and I also did the same with the bathroom,. please wash the toilet etc, the first day I put the paper in the kitchen , she was the only one there and that evening the paper disappeared, it was taken out of where I placed it and it was gone, the paper in the bathroom had something written on it "Please also clean your hair from the tub", she admitted she wrote it when I asked her. All of these things started to make me feel incredibly uncomfortable living with her, I spoke to my boyfriend and asked him to speak to her but things did not improve, I became irritated with him and asked him if he had spoken to her about the problem, he said he had but things did not improve, I was so fed up of fighting with my boyfriend that I decided to take my things and I left and went to live with my brother, he came looking for me and said to be patient she would be leaving on December , it was September the moment. I was looking for a new apartment a bigger one and finally I found one, I agreed to live with him again with his sister until she left. my boyfriend told me she was leaving December 14, the first day they moved in to the apartment I was really happy, I asked him two days into moving in if the plane ticket had been bought for her and what airline she was going to since she was leaving in December, he got upset and said he didn’t know when in December she would be leaving, I got upset and asked him how he didn’t know if he told me she would be leaving in December, he further mentioned that she didn’t even have a set date to leave, they moved in November, on December her baby father to the US and began working, she had asked my boyfriend to let him stay with her and asked me if it was ok. I agreed to it because I felt like if they could work things out she would leave my house and that baby would have a family, after a month of both of them living together he left her, he argued with her saying she didn’t help him with anything and all she wanted was money and someone to pay her debts. I felt really sad for her but urged her to go and work now that she had her child and she was old enough to be let with someone, I found her several jobs she never went, every time I would come home she would be watching tv, with her back to it while on her Facebook, she would cook and not clean even though she was there the whole day. she brought her friend every Thursday to the house and stayed till 3 or 2am making noise and watching movies, she left dishes in the sink for hours, I kept asking my boyfriend to tell her something since I didn’t want to do it anymore, but it kept occurring and I don’t know if my boyfriend ever did tell her anything, one time she told me to shut up in the morning because I woke her up in the morning because I was making breakfast before I went to lunch, we got into a huge argument, that evening I spoke to her and she rolled her eyes and didn’t say anything, my boyfriend was there and he didn’t say anything to her either he said that the fight was between her and I, things got so badly that I asked my boyfriend to have a serious conversation with her and if things don’t improve or he doesn’t talk to her I wanted him to leave the house with her, I finally told her she needs to leave, we both disrespected each other too much and I felt that no matter what I said my boyfriend wasn’t listening, she finally left march 1st and I felt so relieved, soon after my boyfriend said he was leaving which I didn’t believe, but it was true he found an apartment and moved out april1st on my mother’s birthday, he said I had told him to leave so he was leaving,. after six years of living together he went and bought a brand new set of couches, a new bed, everything new, he said he wasn't breaking up with me but he wanted to put some distance to see if we can heal the relationship, when he left I felt like something inside me broke, I felt like he choose his family over me, I’ve done everything for this man, his family never is involved with him and only looks for him when they are in need. it’s been three weeks since he left and he wants us to forget about the past and start over again, he wants to speak to me he calls, me asks me about my day and wants to come over our home, but I can’t look at him the same way anymore, he hurt me so much when he decided to leave, I feel like he will choose his family a second time if given the choice, I now will never have a relationship with his sister, after everything that happened I hate her, I literally hate her, but mostly I hate him for not giving me the place I deserved as his partner because I was more than a simple girlfriend, what should I do? Should I continue to talk to him and hope that eventually this anger subsides, I feel like this relationship has now reached its ending phase and it cannot be rebuilt.
Cinnamonstix Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Can you please break up your story into paragraphs? Cannot read.
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