Calidude6 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Hey everyone, new here and just wanted to hear other's opinions like we all do. Quick summary. Dated this girl over 2 years, first year had some rocky moments but 2nd year got better. Two shy people that be came best friends and more. She got her boobs done which can give a girl a confidence booster which I was fine with. Had it for a year with me and nothing changed about her. However, then she joined a sorority in her last semester of school. At first, I said no, I don't like sororities and the image it comes with. Her sister wanted her to join with her so I finally said it was ok to do so. So with her boobs done, sorority, frat boys and partying, I feel she picked that over me, the sorority life. When she broke up with me, she said she felt unwanted which made her lose feelings and not be happy. Now, we had a few talks about how she was feeling and wanted some change. I was very comfortable with the relationship, guess I took it for granted since I kind of stopped doing the little things to keep the fire because I was in love and life was good with her. We talked about the future. I didn't think we would break up so I learned from that. Now I feel she's getting more attention than ever because she was such a shy girl when I met her. With all that, I think since the relationship wasn't at its best and now in a sorority, it was easier for her to break it off and give up on the relationship. She has said things since the break up like, I miss you, I love you, this break up wasn't easy for her (cause we had a hell of a bond), and she doesn't know the future like if she's trying to leave the door open. Now, she could be just saying these things to try to make me feel better but who knows. So my question is; did she pick the sorority life over me? I really don't know because it's something I don't want to ask or shouldn't ask. I think it had some influence on her decision cause if she didn't join, I don't think I would be talking about this. Thanks!
Syberia Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 (edited) Boob jobs end relationships and even marriages. I've seen it happen twice; one of them, the husband got the wife a boob job for their anniversary and her "newfound confidence" meant she started screwing around behind his back. Edited April 23, 2015 by Syberia 3
Author Calidude6 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Boob jobs end relationships and even marriages. I've seen it happen twice,;one of them, the husband got the wife a boob job for their anniversary and her "newfound confidence" meant she started screwing around behind his back. It's hard to tell if that made any huge impact because she didn't change nor did she start wearing low cut shirts while with me but once she joined a sorority, now she probably is getting more noticed and attention. She was a very shy girl and this probably helped her shyness. I just feel like it's a slap in the face if she picked that life over me. I'm just not too sure
Mjm1014 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I've kind of been there man, my ex didn't get a boob job, but she got obsessive about working out and saying she wished she had a better body. When we were out in public I always noticed her looking at other girls in disgust (only if they had an attractive guy by their side). Anyways she got the body she wanted, all of a sudden started dressing provocative, and I was dumped...she told me she just wanted to be single. I know for fact she was sleeping with A LOT of guys right after we broke up. I know it comes down to this...she was sheltered her entire life, and she finally saw an opportunity to better herself so she could have "fun" which didn't include me...basically I was just being strung along until she got to where she wanted to be and settled with me in the beginning because she didn't feel like she could do any better. Oh well it is what it is. I would say, move on. She wants to live the party life, and got a boob job so the opposite sex would find her more attractive. There's not much else to figure out...She doesn't seem that serious about a relationship...why get a boob job if she's happy with you, and you make her feel attractive? Sorry man... :/
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Even if she'd had no boob job, chances are she would have thrown herself into the college life this exact same way and joined a sorority and started having more fun than she's ever had before in her life. I'm glad you admit that you were taking her for granted, but don't feel too bad about that because the truth is she's young and college age is the greatest time of change. We grow from kids to adults during this time and everything moves really fast because we're at our youthful best and opportunities shower on us like no other time in our life -- and so we grow and find our own paths and we try different things and get to know different people. I know this is sad for you and it is possible she'll come back around, but a bird has got to fly at this age. You should do the same, get out, date, have fun, go out with friends, travel, do new things, make new interests, and keep in touch with her in case you don't grow apart but grow back together once you're both old enough to be ready to settle down, which could be 5 or 10 or more years from now. 1
casey.lives Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 if she is past the college years, she is regressing. She doesn't sound ready for a real relationship.. or lasting love... or adulthood.
GoBlue Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Hey "Calidude6" - sorry for your loss. No one really knows what's going on inside of your girl's mind except for her. I am sorry for your pain but these things happen. Most break-ups that take place are a good thing for one of two reasons: the relationship needed to end because it wasn't going to stand the test of time, or a break-up brings both parties to a mutual realization that they really do love one another and want to be together. This is the reason I don't get worked up over pre-marriage break-ups - the outcome is usually very positive. My thoughts are with you. Be blessed! 1
Vercetti Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Maybe should post this in the topic of the guy that only wants to date girls with a collage degree. Anyhow be happy you did not get strung along for years of her drunken sisterhood stupidity. You now are free to date girls that ambition is greater then going under the knife in order to attract as many pump and dumpers as possiable.
wb1988 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 (edited) Even if she'd had no boob job, chances are she would have thrown herself into the college life this exact same way and joined a sorority and started having more fun than she's ever had before in her life. No, she probably would've never become a sorority slut without the implants. Boob jobs completely change a womans personality (or gets rid of it altogether). You can have a lovely woman that's only self-conscious about her boobs turn in to an incredibly vain attention-seeking sociopath once she has 2 large foreign objects inside her body for nothing but the purpose of vanity. Unfortunately most women that get them (or have friends that get them) are delusional when faced with the consequences. Edited April 24, 2015 by wb1988
lana-banana Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 No, she probably would've never become a sorority slut without the implants. Boob jobs completely change a womans personality (or gets rid of it altogether). You can have a lovely woman that's only self-conscious about her boobs turn in to an incredibly vain attention-seeking sociopath because of it. It's all down to having 2 large foreign objects inside you for nothing but the purpose of vanity. Unfortunately most women that get them (or have friends that get them) are delusional when faced with the consequences. A dear friend of mine had her breasts enhanced to a 32C years ago. She likes the way she looks in dresses and feels happy with herself. She has no desire to have any other surgeries and is one of the least vain people I know. She is engaged to an amazing man who doesn't care about it one way or another because he loves her. There seems to be a lot of anger on these boards towards women who choose to have breast enhancements. If you changed it to "mole removal" it's hard to imagine anyone would care but it's essentially the same.
Author Calidude6 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 I've kind of been there man, my ex didn't get a boob job, but she got obsessive about working out and saying she wished she had a better body. When we were out in public I always noticed her looking at other girls in disgust (only if they had an attractive guy by their side). Anyways she got the body she wanted, all of a sudden started dressing provocative, and I was dumped...she told me she just wanted to be single. I know for fact she was sleeping with A LOT of guys right after we broke up. I know it comes down to this...she was sheltered her entire life, and she finally saw an opportunity to better herself so she could have "fun" which didn't include me...basically I was just being strung along until she got to where she wanted to be and settled with me in the beginning because she didn't feel like she could do any better. Oh well it is what it is. I would say, move on. She wants to live the party life, and got a boob job so the opposite sex would find her more attractive. There's not much else to figure out...She doesn't seem that serious about a relationship...why get a boob job if she's happy with you, and you make her feel attractive? Sorry man... :/ I can honestly say I don't think the boob job had much of an impact because for a whole year nothing changed and she hardly ever showed them. I just thinking joining a sorority and more guys seeing and noticing her, the boobs help that attention. Even though I didn't ask and want to but I won't, I think she picked the sorority life or it made it a easier choice since the relationship wasn't at its best at the time. Still, shouldn't be a quitter and give up but maybe her youth and needs more experience in the world. Idk but thanks man, appreciate it. All of it helps the grief process.
Author Calidude6 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Even if she'd had no boob job, chances are she would have thrown herself into the college life this exact same way and joined a sorority and started having more fun than she's ever had before in her life. I'm glad you admit that you were taking her for granted, but don't feel too bad about that because the truth is she's young and college age is the greatest time of change. We grow from kids to adults during this time and everything moves really fast because we're at our youthful best and opportunities shower on us like no other time in our life -- and so we grow and find our own paths and we try different things and get to know different people. I know this is sad for you and it is possible she'll come back around, but a bird has got to fly at this age. You should do the same, get out, date, have fun, go out with friends, travel, do new things, make new interests, and keep in touch with her in case you don't grow apart but grow back together once you're both old enough to be ready to settle down, which could be 5 or 10 or more years from now. This is awesome and couldn't agree more. I think some of things I didn't do that I should of might of helped our relationship but with her youth and sorority life now, she might need to experience to realize later down the road if I'm still available. Time for her to grow and realize what she wants. Forunately though, I believe she is only doing the sorority life for one semester because she is about to graduate. Better to know for my mind -_-
Author Calidude6 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Hey "Calidude6" - sorry for your loss. No one really knows what's going on inside of your girl's mind except for her. I am sorry for your pain but these things happen. Most break-ups that take place are a good thing for one of two reasons: the relationship needed to end because it wasn't going to stand the test of time, or a break-up brings both parties to a mutual realization that they really do love one another and want to be together. This is the reason I don't get worked up over pre-marriage break-ups - the outcome is usually very positive. My thoughts are with you. Be blessed! Thank you for the words, definitely helps the pain and the grief. If it's meant to be, she'll come back and I'll be available but if not, life goes. She says she doesn't the know future and loves me but could just be saying that for the hell of it. I don't know. But GO BLUE!!!! Wolverines!!
Author Calidude6 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 No, she probably would've never become a sorority slut without the implants. Boob jobs completely change a womans personality (or gets rid of it altogether). You can have a lovely woman that's only self-conscious about her boobs turn in to an incredibly vain attention-seeking sociopath once she has 2 large foreign objects inside her body for nothing but the purpose of vanity. Unfortunately most women that get them (or have friends that get them) are delusional when faced with the consequences. As I said before, I don't think the boob job was a big impact because she didn't change at all and hardly ever showed cleavage but with a dress. Just the attention that comes with it and being in a sorority probably helped her make the choice of breaking up with me since she wasn't happy she says.
PogoStick Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 The replies focusing on the boobs are off. It's not the boob job, it's not the sorority. She's living, she's growing, she's exploring. That's what young people do. She's supposed to be single, going crazy, enjoying herself, and dating all kinds of different guys. You should be doing the same thing. Don't get stuck in the past. 1
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