CripplingMe Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Maybe they can, but mine didn't. Pretty much 3 months after he wanted a second chance - and got it, I'm left feeling angry, upset and hurt that the sweet talk meant nothing. He changed his mind about wanting to get a full time job and us move in together, as he's wanting to start his own business and wants to commit full time to this business. I Relocated to stay with him and his parents on the premise we would move in together, but he said 'there's nothing wrong with people changing their minds' - completely nonchalant as he said it. So, I'm having to move back to my home town and the atmosphere is unbearable at present. I'm probably as much to blame for believing him when he turned up at my house wanting me back. He's making out like it's an incompatibility issue and doesn't understand why I am angry and resentful of him lately. Why do people do this? I've been through so much pain and heartache when I came onto LS in January, and as much as I know I'm going to be upset again, the pain won't be as crippling as last time I hope because I'm more angry this time. Second chances are risky because you put complete faith and trust in people that they won't break your heart again. Sadly, I like to give people the benefit of doubt, to my detriment on this occasion. I hope second chances work for others. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Time to make plans for YOUR future! Sucks?...Yes,but...it is what it is. Get on with it. Good luck to you and your future adventures! Link to post Share on other sites
Cinnamonstix Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 (edited) I've read your other threads just now and your story really helped me today, perhaps because I really relate to you. You're a giver and a romantic. Your story was a good reminder that even if you do get back together, as the dumpee, you lose a lot of love and trust in that person, and the old issues are likely there on top of that. Just keep reminding yourself that you weren't happy in this "new" relationship that was just a crappy, more disconnected version of the old relationship. And because you already went through the grieving process once, not that long ago, he really can't hurt you as much this time around. First cut really is the deepest. I can't tell from your post who ended it this time, but it doesn't matter. You sound like you can do much better than him. You bring a lot more to the table as a partner and need to find your equal. Not someone who is lost and doesn't know what they want in life. You will find someone who wants you, through thick and thin and will grow with you through it all. Edited April 24, 2015 by Cinnamonstix 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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