Redhead14 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 - That's what I said earlier in this thread, about him not having game... he's just not very skilled with women, he does not know what to do, at least not enough. Yep, lots of guys are this way. I just don't let myself be their practice partner Sometimes if I liked them enough for the most part, I would let them know, in a casual, non-critical way, how I like to be treated and if they don't begin to do that and learn something, the teacher sends them to the learning impaired group and let's another teacher deal wid it. 2
Gary S Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Yep, lots of guys are this way. I just don't let myself be their practice partner Sometimes if I liked them enough for the most part, I would let them know, in a casual, non-critical way, how I like to be treated and if they don't begin to do that and learn something, the teacher sends them to the learning impaired group and let's another teacher deal wid it. :laugh::laugh:
Author Cinnimon Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 I am backing off. Not playing any games. Just if he wants me he needs to act like it. End of story.
elaine567 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I kinda agree with Gary S he has no real game, he is treating you like a buddy, because he doesn't really know how to treat you. Yes Cinnimon exactly - "He is acting like the little boy in school who is mean to the little girls he likes." At age 19, I worked with a 17 yo guy, who used to "buddy" me, he would bear hug me, fake wrestling, hit me on the arm, he was always trying to manhandle me in some way. I didn't feel oppressed. He was just a big kid to me, but I found out later he really liked me, only his response to me was pretty immature to say the least. 2
gaius Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 She's not talking about a 17 year old virgin who's dealing with an older woman. It's a guy that's way older, and if he hasn't figured out by then to even put your hand on the back of a woman when you lead her off the dance floor then that's deliberate. He's certainly figured out how to ask a woman to dance. When there's a million people around. Which is much more daunting. I think I've pretty much spurted all my great advice on this topic but hopefully it was enough. =/ 1
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I'm taking a shot in the dark here. Does he still live with his parents? Because it sounds like he's just still a teenager, an inexperienced one who doesn't know what to do. Probably not mature enough for you. 1
Author Cinnimon Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 You'd think so by his actions or lack of. He is in his mid 40's and divorced.
Vercetti Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 If I invited you on a date, it would be you and I. You know what the goal is, have zero care getting to know you through committee. Would not shoot myself in the foot limiting the potential conversation. I would be ticked if arrived at a date and it was a full house, might just roll eyes and do a 180 right back out the door.
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 He is acting like the little boy in school who is mean to the little girls he likes. Cinnimon, why do you bother? Since clearly he annoys you, just stop seeing him! Why do you continue? I mean, seriously, what's the point? He's not your cup of tea....just end it. 1
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Cinnimon, why do you bother? Since clearly he annoys you, just stop seeing him! Why do you continue? I mean, seriously, what's the point? He's not your cup of tea....just end it. Well, since you "liked" my post, I know you've read it....so are ya gonna respond to my question? Why are you continuing with this when CLEARLY you are so annoyed by him? I don't get it.......and I am genuinely curious. :)
wb1988 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 Sounds like he only has game when he's drunk one too many. Classic British guys.
Author Cinnimon Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 Well, since you "liked" my post, I know you've read it....so are ya gonna respond to my question? Why are you continuing with this when CLEARLY you are so annoyed by him? I don't get it.......and I am genuinely curious. :) I'm sorry didn't mean to ignore your question but I thought I had stated earlier that I was backing off, meaning I am not going to continue to see him. 1
katiegrl Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I'm sorry didn't mean to ignore your question but I thought I had stated earlier that I was backing off, meaning I am not going to continue to see him. Don't be sorry...MY bad for missing that. Anyhoo, good call!
BluEyeL Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 I say good call too. This guy is too much work and not worth it.
Author Cinnimon Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 Here is my puzzling update: So I backed off, if he called I didn't answer and when he text I would wait an hour or so to answer , just keeping it short and to the point. He stopped texting and calling me for a few days and I thought well there you go, he's quit. Not. I kept getting phone calls from a private number which I wasn't answering but they kept calling and calling and calling so I finally picked up and it was him telling me that he had lost his phone and had been trying to reach me from a landline until his phone replacement arrived. He said his next move was to come by my house if I wouldn't answer as he didn't want me to think he had just stopped talking to me..... Weird ..... He no longer asks to come over or to go out but he does call every few days and texts at least once a day....... I'm not really sure what he's trying to accomplish.
Gary S Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 (edited) I'm betting he did not loose his phone, he just called from another phone so that you would pickup. And he said he would come over your house unannounced after only 3 dates? I hope you did not pick up a stalker. I would cut contact and start screening your calls - let unknown calls go to voicemail. Change his name to "telemarketer" and don't answer or text him. This guy may have serious problems. Edited April 29, 2015 by Gary S
Redhead14 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Here is my puzzling update: So I backed off, if he called I didn't answer and when he text I would wait an hour or so to answer , just keeping it short and to the point. He stopped texting and calling me for a few days and I thought well there you go, he's quit. Not. I kept getting phone calls from a private number which I wasn't answering but they kept calling and calling and calling so I finally picked up and it was him telling me that he had lost his phone and had been trying to reach me from a landline until his phone replacement arrived. He said his next move was to come by my house if I wouldn't answer as he didn't want me to think he had just stopped talking to me..... Weird ..... He no longer asks to come over or to go out but he does call every few days and texts at least once a day....... I'm not really sure what he's trying to accomplish. What do you really want here? Do you want him to move on? If so, don't back off and then continue to respond. You call him, tell him you're no longer interested and that he needs to stop calling and/or texting you and that you will block his number. You also tell him that if he shows up at your house unannounced, you will call the police. If you want to continue to see him, you don't play the wait it out game for responding. You call him and have a frank, upfront conversation with him about what he wants now. The reason you're not sure what he's trying to accomplish is that you are not communicating with him.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 29, 2015 Posted April 29, 2015 Yeah this guy is definitely off. Calls you right after you give your number and basically implies he always gets rejected. Then he latches on calling and texting you daily for a week straight like he's afraid you'll slip away. Then when you finally have the date, his family is there? Almost like he's trying to prove to them that you exist..LOL Then to make matters worse, he sits nowhere near you, basically ignores you, and forces you to talk to them? As a whole this guy just sounds like he doesn't trust/understand women. Part of him would like to take things further with you, but he just doesn't have the right instincts. Instead of him being your charity case, I'd just walk away and meet a guy that actually wants to fully be with you. 1
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