j_mysterio Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 What were your last words? How do you feel about it?
frankiesaysrelax Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 (edited) I wouldn't say anything. Let a conversation end without a reason for further contact and then just ignore any texts coming your way. If they ask why you're ignoring them, simply say you apologize but you need your space or some there excuse like that. Edited April 23, 2015 by frankiesaysrelax
quattrob Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I told my ex that we shouldn't talk or see each other anymore. And that's it. she wanted to text/call me when she feels insecure and lonely but I wouldn't allow that. I told myself the moment someone dumps/breaks up with me especially for selfish reasons and I have been nothing but good to her, there's no reason for me to even want to stay in this relationship in the first place. She did not appreciate me in the way I deserved so she doesn't deserve to be in my life at all. It was hard at first but after a few days - a week, I started feeling good because I treated myself well and it was the best decision ever... Now I don't even regret anything and don't think of her at all, if I did it would be just be someone i knew but have no feelings towards. If she tried to come back to me, I'm 100% declining her, no hard feelings though... just feelings are gone. 2
mightycpa Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 All I said was Goodbye Matilda No objection, no argument, no asking why, no negotiation and no discussion. And of course, no contact after that either. I didn't want to convince her, because her affection would be worthless to me that way. It amazes me how people can go back to face that kind of rejection so many times. I couldn't do it. 1
darkbloom Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 "You're going to end up just like your father, sad and alone." 3
Author j_mysterio Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Oh god, that one made me laugh lol
PrettyEmily77 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 'We should stop having any contact'. Then followed through. Felt awful at first, then sad, then guilty, then sad, then awful, then guilty, then sad, then very, very relieved to finally be away from the drama. 1
darkbloom Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Oh god, that one made me laugh lol I spoke 100% truth to him. Could be why he hasn't broken NC. It was pretty harsh and completely true. 1
BroknHrt Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 "**** you" after I found out she was dating somebody while still sleeping with me. I forgive it so it's all good.
J007 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I told her I could not take the lies and deciept anymore and as hard as it can be . I have to move on . I told her that she'll always be printed on my heart and if she ever wanted to build up just 'me and her' I would listen but if not . Good luck in your life . Hopefully one day you will realise what we could have had . Been NC 7 weeks . 1
Hawaii51 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 "You're going to end up just like your father, sad and alone." What-a-dick! lmao. She's obviously going for the long-lasting, cut-you-to-the-core NC. I bet you're a good woman when you're loved right the first time. 1
casey.lives Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 it's good to confirm that we had good reason to walk away from each other the first time. Privacy, one on one communication, intimacy, friendship, trust and loyalty, respect are my meat and potatoes. Nutella gets tiresome quite fast. i can't live off sweets :/ Good luck with you ambitious EXPANSIVE endeavors. bye
Haydn Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I gave a haughty look, nodded, smiled, said good luck with your embroidery endeavors then stormed out in a languid but hopefully attractive manner. In 5 minutes i was back, having left my car keys and phone in her kitchen.... 8
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 "You have ended up with exactly what u deserve which is absolutely nothing, just desserts!" I couldn't help myself lol x
JohnsonBaby Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I gave a haughty look, nodded, smiled, said good luck with your embroidery endeavors then stormed out in a languid but hopefully attractive manner. In 5 minutes i was back, having left my car keys and phone in her kitchen.... :laugh:that's funny
Fallenangel82 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 "Have fun! say Hi to Sean for me x" Got him right where I wanted him, then boom went NC. Kill em with kindness. Poor soul has no idea yet. Thinks we are all hunky dory. Nope, plan B here has decided to vanish. Figure it will mess with him more this way. He will wonder what the hell happened to his back up girl. Vindictive? Yes. Deserved? After what he's done, HELL YES! Pity I ate months worth of breadcrumbs till I got strong enough to play him at his own game 1
Toodaloo Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I gave a haughty look, nodded, smiled, said good luck with your embroidery endeavors then stormed out in a languid but hopefully attractive manner. In 5 minutes i was back, having left my car keys and phone in her kitchen.... Oh honey are you sure your not me???!!! Sorry but that is so funny. Are you sure that you didn't just flounce off??? I support you in saying that I am absolutely positive you looked very macho and sexy as you walked through that door (after collecting car keys and phone). Last words I said were "see you around"... I have absolutely no intention if "seeing him around"...
imbax Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 When she first broke up with me I used logic to persuade her. She couldn't see it through, so after a bit of arguing I told her "All the best" and walked out of her car back home. The next day, after we met for final words I texted her, "Just wanted to let you know that I will wait for you to figure it all out, until the day you stop loving me". And that was it, haven't heard back from her ever since but I am coping well as I feel like NC has given me heaps of power! 1
RoseHeart Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I still have the texts on my phone from our last conversation... my part was "I must move on. I can't hope for something every day when it will probably not even happen. All the best for you and good luck with your studies " I tried to make sure he realizes I'm not angry with him and I also wanted to make sure he understood that I'm not going to carry on talking with him for the foreseeable future.
Sanosuke Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Said if I could turn back time, I would've gone back home when I saw her sitting there on that first date. Pretty silly actually, but I was just pissed off, because she cheated on me twice, telling me she needed alone time and all that bull****. 2 weeks later I already spotted her on tinder.. Kept NC since, 1 month 2 days and counting .
dangerbang Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Having been dumped, she was harassing me over money for a few days, saying I owed her this and that. I sent her an email with the maths stating that she possibly owed me money if anything and that we should just forget about it. My final words in the message were "I don't expect to hear from you again". This p*ssed her off and she started saying she fell out of love with me a long time ago. Then this was followed up by texts saying she didn't mean to say that and that it's not even true. That was the last I heard from her, a week ago now. What's up with that? 1
Carm Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I remember what I said like it was just yesterday...it was 5 years ago. I said, you used me, abused me and played me for a fool, now get the f### out of my house. Yup, I was blindsided when I caught him cheating. Took me 3 years to get over the piece of shyt. 1
darkbloom Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 What-a-dick! lmao. She's obviously going for the long-lasting, cut-you-to-the-core NC. I bet you're a good woman when you're loved right the first time. My mom always told me I didn't need to resort to violence as I could hurt people with my words alone. His dad is on divorce number 2 after lying and cheating on both the mother of my ex and his wife after that. My ex is resentful towards his dad but is making the exact same poor decisions and choices. I'm always a good woman, but don't cross me.
GreenWellington Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 She kept giving me breadcrumbs after leaving me. Saying she needed closure and didn't want to leave on bad terms. She said she'd always be there to catch up at some point down the road. I made it clear she shouldn't contact me anymore. I ended it with ''Same to you, wish you the best and take care of yourself'' haven't heard from her since.
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