What Happened?

[Pikesburgh]

I'm 21, had a gf who is also 21, and she was very mature for her age. Very very intelligent, and so down to earth. We had everything in common, and she fell for me pretty early, but we clicked and connected so well on everything that it seemed right. Well, eventually she breaks up with me due to her "losing feelings" over the course of 2 weeks. We dated 2 months and everything was great, yet she loses feelings for me in just 2 weeks and says she thought they would come back but didn't. She breaks up with me, and already has a new bf just a week after me. She claims she met him when hanging out with her best friend. Well now they go on dates all the time and she's super sneaky about it. I only contact her because we're doing an online business together, and luckily once it's officially up and running we no longer need contact.

 

I really don't understand if I was a rebound, even though I was her first boyfriend in half a year, especially considering she had me watch her cats for 9 days while on vacation with her parents, and she had so much trust in me in every facet. She did however warn me if I didn't trust her she'd lose feelings, and I feel like that's what happened.

 

What I'd really like to know, is she just an emotionally f***ed up person, where she gets highly attracted/attached to a new guy every few months or what? Every time I try contacting her I wanna smack my friggen head off the ground, but I need to get a better grasp about this business from her, since she's so smart. It's not like I can just pass up this opportunity....you have to be invited into this line of work, and it pays very, very well. So I can't throw it away, but she makes me feel worthless and replaceable.

[Twigyy]

Maybe it wasn't the same for her, since you said it was only two months. Maybe you're not the one she is looking for. The point is if she doesn't want to be in the relationship, you need to let her go, no matter what the reason is. Go No Contact and you'll be fine.

[SLee]

Without knowing more than you posted, this is what I can throw in. Hopefully it helps.

 

I'm also your age. My ex dumped me after 3.5 recently. What I do know is that people our age tend to not stick around long and like to "test the waters". Your dedication speaks to your character. As Twigyy said, in the grand scheme, 2 months isn't that long, even if it doesn't feel that way now. I don't think you were a rebound. I don't know if she's messed up emotionally, she may just be young.

 

I have an acquaintance (same age as you and I) who is a notorious serial dater. The cycle always is this: She meets a guy, swears to take it slow, goes out with him for a week, the next week they're head over heels in love, that lasts for a couple months, turns out "he's not the one", and she ends it, then swears to be single for a while, meets a guy in the next few weeks, and the cycle continues.

 

I don't agree with her actions at all, because she is kind of an idiot about it and is fairly superficial, but she's young and lovesick and also constantly looking for love, but gets easily bored or superficial and wants to see what else is out there. Again, I don't agree with her methods because she's broken the hearts of some very awesome guys, but like I said she's young. Some people our age need to do that to learn. Obviously my acquaintance isn't your ex, but from what you describe, it sounds at least vaguely similar.

 

Once you don't have to contact her anymore, don't. You'll be fine and believe it or not, there are women who are looking for whatever you are looking for. Don't search for answers, you either won't get any or you'll just drag it out and make yourself feel worse. Do your business and then be done. You're gonna be okay.