zachsack Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 So me and this girl have been talking, we flirt and such in person. But, when I text her, SHE NEVER ANSWERS. Yet, when we meet up again, she asks why I don't text her back. Clearly shes the one not doing it. We use Kik as her phone is deactivated, and maybe it could be connection issues. Also, when I saw her at school today, she kept bringing up the fact that she texted me and I never answered! And on my phone it says that her phone has been disconnected and then theres a solid D (meaning she opened the app but not the message). I really could be connectivity issues and I'm not too familiar with Kik. But this isn't the first time. Why does she do this?
devilish innocent Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 It sounds like some sort of a connection issue. Show her that your phone says she's not texting back and see how she responds.
Author zachsack Posted April 18, 2015 Author Posted April 18, 2015 It sounds like some sort of a connection issue. Show her that your phone says she's not texting back and see how she responds. Yep it was, she found out what stopped it and we had a pretty good convo after that.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 Why does she do this? It's funny how you bypassed talking to her about this, jumped to conclusions, and asked strangers on the Internet as if we knew exactly what is happening. It's good you did communicate with her eventually. Hopefully you learned, moving forward in life, communication should be your first action.
Author zachsack Posted April 18, 2015 Author Posted April 18, 2015 It's funny how you bypassed talking to her about this, jumped to conclusions, and asked strangers on the Internet as if we knew exactly what is happening. It's good you did communicate with her eventually. Hopefully you learned, moving forward in life, communication should be your first action. Well, I did talk to her about it, I was just wondering why it didn't add up.
fred123 Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 It's funny how you bypassed talking to her about this, jumped to conclusions, and asked strangers on the Internet as if we knew exactly what is happening. It's good you did communicate with her eventually. Hopefully you learned, moving forward in life, communication should be your first action. It doesnt actually work that way. There have been times where iv liked a girl and been trying to get to know her and by communicating with her issues that you have actually doesnt work. Girls find it annoying and wont talk. So you always leave it alone if you have communication problems. Also the girl will never tell you the truth if u do communicate
fitnessfan365 Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 Haha.. Man, with all the exclamation points and question marks, it comes off like you're very desperate and needy. It's amazing how many guys lose their $hit over phone interaction and that don't listen to common sense. 1) Slow response time - A woman may not always be able to get to you in two hours or less. Sometimes people actually have a life outside of their phone. But if she is interested, she WILL eventually get back to you. So that's why you be patient and wait. 2) Lack of response - If a woman never gets back to you, it isn't a cue for you to text her more and more. So send one text. If you don't hear back from a woman within 48-72 hrs, try one follow up phone call with a voice mail. After that, if you don't hear anything you simply walk away. She won't let a guy she's interested in get away.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 It doesnt actually work that way. There have been times where iv liked a girl and been trying to get to know her and by communicating with her issues that you have actually doesnt work. Girls find it annoying and wont talk. So you always leave it alone if you have communication problems. Also the girl will never tell you the truth if u do communicate Actually it does. When a woman does this, it's a clear non-verbal indicator she's not interested. You just have to be perceptive enough to recognize it, and have the discipline to not continue pursuing a lost cause. 1
Author zachsack Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Haha.. Man, with all the exclamation points and question marks, it comes off like you're very desperate and needy. It's amazing how many guys lose their $hit over phone interaction and that don't listen to common sense. 1) Slow response time - A woman may not always be able to get to you in two hours or less. Sometimes people actually have a life outside of their phone. But if she is interested, she WILL eventually get back to you. So that's why you be patient and wait. 2) Lack of response - If a woman never gets back to you, it isn't a cue for you to text her more and more. So send one text. If you don't hear back from a woman within 48-72 hrs, try one follow up phone call with a voice mail. After that, if you don't hear anything you simply walk away. She won't let a guy she's interested in get away. You think I'm desperate because of the excalamation points I put? Maybe it's easier to catch someone's attention with symbols. It stands out on the page.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 You think I'm desperate because of the excalamation points I put? Maybe it's easier to catch someone's attention with symbols. It stands out on the page. Exclamation points and question marks imply massive frustration about something. So yeah it came off that way.
Author zachsack Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 So this girl that I seem to like with her sharing the same feelings as me said that she didn't have food to eat, or she forgot lunch and didn't feel like eating. So I asked her if she wanted anything from the lunchline (cookie, drink, etc.) and she was reluctant as first, then just said whatever you want. I got her a cookie and brought it to her. She then sat next to me at lunch, I guess it was a oppurtunity to talk and get to know each other more. But, when I sat down, my mind went blank, and all I could do was ask if she wanted food and then joke saying that she wasn't going to get any. I then talked about how we met, and who started talking to each other first. But there were moments where it was quiet, and we just looked on into the distance. At one point she asked why I was so quiet, and I was about to answer then she said "oh, thats right, your eating". Then we started talking about how we miss our old lunch because it wasn't so quiet. When lunch ended, I walked her to her class, and in the end we just said "bye". No hug, or anything. I really hate my communication skills, maybe its because I'm shy around her, but I'm pretty sure I got rid of that issue years ago. Or its because I don't know much about her, since its only been like 3 weeks. What can I do next time we get together, what should I say? Not only do I have this problem, she also does too. But it seems like my mistake if I keep my mouth shut at such a chance. Also, when I first got her contact info (Kik, she has no phone) I asked to hang out with just us, and she agreed. Then she brought it up the other day asking when we should hang out, whether it be Friday night, or the weekend. And we agreed Friday night. We wanted to go to the park and get dinner. Should I buy the meal? Or should she pay for her own? (Nothing fancy, just something like pizza, Subway, or McDonalds). Also, final question. I want to give her a hint of my feelings. But not full-out ask her out. And I feel like I should put her as my #wcw (Womans Crush Wedsnday). Usually, people don't take this seriously but its enough of a clue. Should I do it?
Satu Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Just be nice and let the sunny side of your character show. Don't get into trying to manage the details. Just be yourself.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 So this girl that I seem to like with her sharing the same feelings as me said that she didn't have food to eat, or she forgot lunch and didn't feel like eating. So I asked her if she wanted anything from the lunchline (cookie, drink, etc.) and she was reluctant as first, then just said whatever you want. I got her a cookie and brought it to her. She then sat next to me at lunch, I guess it was a oppurtunity to talk and get to know each other more. But, when I sat down, my mind went blank, and all I could do was ask if she wanted food and then joke saying that she wasn't going to get any. I then talked about how we met, and who started talking to each other first. But there were moments where it was quiet, and we just looked on into the distance. At one point she asked why I was so quiet, and I was about to answer then she said "oh, thats right, your eating". Then we started talking about how we miss our old lunch because it wasn't so quiet. When lunch ended, I walked her to her class, and in the end we just said "bye". No hug, or anything. I really hate my communication skills, maybe its because I'm shy around her, but I'm pretty sure I got rid of that issue years ago. Or its because I don't know much about her, since its only been like 3 weeks. What can I do next time we get together, what should I say? Not only do I have this problem, she also does too. But it seems like my mistake if I keep my mouth shut at such a chance. Also, when I first got her contact info (Kik, she has no phone) I asked to hang out with just us, and she agreed. Then she brought it up the other day asking when we should hang out, whether it be Friday night, or the weekend. And we agreed Friday night. We wanted to go to the park and get dinner. Should I buy the meal? Or should she pay for her own? (Nothing fancy, just something like pizza, Subway, or McDonalds). Also, final question. I want to give her a hint of my feelings. But not full-out ask her out. And I feel like I should put her as my #wcw (Womans Crush Wedsnday). Usually, people don't take this seriously but its enough of a clue. Should I do it? Are you both at uni or in high school? .
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 What are you dragging your feet for? She just asked you WHEN you were finally going to ask her out, so ask her out and yes, you pay for it. And go pick her up and hold the door and the chair or whatever and don't start talking about your feelings. It's WAAAAY too soon. Just go out, have fun. Do some googling and find something to talk about just general conversation or show her a couple of funny YouTubes on your phone or whatever to keep the conversation going. No one is that good at being relaxed at your age when they're first dating, so don't sweat it. At end of the night, walk her to the door and give her a quick kiss on the mouth and say goodnight and leave. 1
Author zachsack Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Are you both at uni or in high school? . High school
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