NicoletteCB Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I've been trying to get over my ex and this girl recently starting talking to me online and we've exchanged number and been talking now for a few days. She's pretty and has good qualities to her and potential but I'm so warped over the loss of my ex that I...can't seem to get into a good mood when talking to this girl. I feel like my ex literally broke me because normally I am an extremely loving person who has no problem giving love and attaching myself to someone new and actually with all my past break ups I was always the one who moved on first and was with someone new. Now it feels so backwards almost that my ex is the one who's moved on completely and with someone else and I'm struggling every night still to not cry or punch myself. I don't know I feel so bad in a way because this girl I'm talking to knows I've recently been dumped and am still coping but I feel like I'm not giving my all or best here and I don't know what I want yet. I feel like I'm okay with being physically loved on and told sweet things but I'm having such a hard time emotionally with giving love back and opening up it's ridiculous. I want to give this other girl a chance and go on a date and be who I really am but it almost feels like something is blocking my heart and my emotions. I feel physical pain trying to open up and try to show affection to someone else.
NC-Thomas Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Well you have two options. 1. Like Satu said, too soon. True, because you need to rebuild yourself before you can love another person. Love yourself first. Be happy alone. 2. If both parties are only in it for "physical" love, then by all means continue. This might sound contradictory to my first point, but having intimate physical contact boosts your low confidence and self-esteem. Just make sure you are clear of your motives, which is her being a distraction from your ex and use of pleasure (FWB). Im not saying it's unwise to seek out the pleasures that life has to offer you, just know that inner growth is largely achieved by focussing solely on yourself in times like these. Reflect, accept, better yourself, seek out inner happyness and learn to love yourself 1
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