Jerseyguyy Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Whats going on loveshackers.. Havent been for a few months after findin out my girl left me for another guy.. When I heard the news i was sick to my stomach for a few days an then as the days passed by I was gettin better and better.. Last conversation we had i confronted her about it calmly wishing her the best and she responded coldly which led me to say dont ever contact me again.. That was the last i heard from her.. That leaves me where im at now.. 60+ days NC and i can say i never thought id be at this point in recovery.. Im doing good, living happy and carefree.. But for some strange reason ( not sure if its the loveshack curse lol ) but around that 60 day mark i have been missing her more than i should an tempted to contact her to see how shes been. I know it makes no sense.. Im just curious why do i feel this way after doing so well for 6 weeks? And more than likely i wont contact her but i need help on getting this urge out my system.. My mind goes from " contact her just see hows shes been.. You told her never contact you so why would she? " to " are you stupid? Dont ever contact her.. She did you wrong " I know ya can give some good advice..
OneBigIdgit Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Its probably time for you to be dating someone pretty often. Try to keep the feelings in check but you need a distraction from her memory. I'm basically at the same place you are and although I know my ex had issues that I didn't know about and cant recover from(plus she got married 2 1/2 months into her new relationship), I still miss her or I miss being part of a couple. In the last 2 weeks I've had 3 mutual friends walk up and tell me that they couldn't believe that I didn't know my ex was crazy. I asked why they didn't tell me and they said they thought it was obvious enough that I'd see it haha Love is truly blind in my case, I guess. If you get an urge to contact her that you can't deny, at worst take a look at her facebook page or something like that. At least you can get your feelings hurt with little chance of her knowing about it. I've been going out but not actively dating anyone but it is sure tough to see others snuggly and coupled up.
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