Have no choice but to keep in contact. Anxious on how to handle it.

[kc3509]

My initial breakup with my ex happened two Sundays ago and was pretty rough. I felt a lot of pain and resentment towards her. However, since then, me and her had a talk. Things were explained, apologies were made, emotions expressed. We have made up. Seriously, there are no problems between us two now personally and the breakup is quite mutual.

 

The problem is, she is the one who initiated the breakup, and has been thinking of doing so for a little while now. She has already gone through most of the emotional process and is 100% ready to move on, however for me it is still extremely fresh and I have a lot of anxiety about it, and I still feel love for her and miss her. We were together for 1 and a half years.

 

On to the main point, we go to the same church and that doesn't look to be changing any time soon. I am forced to see her nearly every single Sunday and Wednesday, and basically every one of our friends are mutual, so random events and casual association is basically unavoidable as well.

 

It's apparent that I'm going to have to live with this for a while and do not have the luxury to cut all ties and move on completely from her as I am only 17 so moving/going to a different church/ any other drastic decision isn't an option for a least a couple more years. Honestly, I still care about her, and like her as a person and friend, so I don't want to do that anyway.

 

Any advice on how to move on, while still having her in my life. As i said the breakup was mutual and I still care about her VERY much. I don't know how I'll be able to let go while still having to see and associate with her all the time. And i don't have the option to do it in any other way.

[Chi townD]

Hell, I was going to tell you to go to a different church. But, since you can't make that happen. Well, people tend t sit in the same area when they go to service. It's usually just a force of habit.

 

 

Go to church and sit as far from her as possible and when service is over, just leave. Don't wait around...just go.

[d0nnivain]

Most churches have more than 1 service on Saturday. Just ask your parents if you can go to the other one.