preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Someone who is doing dance classes and all that is going to be dancing with different partners. It's the nature of the beast.
Author Whisky1981 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Someone who is doing dance classes and all that is going to be dancing with different partners. It's the nature of the beast. Sorry but I really don't understand your point. I am searching for an advice if I should ditch her or try to work something out, not some philosophic cr*p. Thanks anyway.
Author Whisky1981 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 in the future, I don't think ultimatums are the way to go. If you recognize a difference like this with you and a partner, then talk it out and see if these differences can be reconciled. If not, then it might be best to pursue someone else. Good Luck. Thanks. I didn't give her an ultimatum I just told her that if she gose dancing with her co-dancer I would't go dance with her. It's just the dancing thing, I didn't tell her that I would break up with her for this. So she chose the co-dancer over me although I am the one she calls when she has problems and wants to go somewhere. I am just seeking advice if I should swallow this and go on or ditch her completly.
WonderKid Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Even though this experience I am stating is different from yours, me personally, I wouldn't be able to take her seriously. I would treat her more like a friend then. I've seen this with single moms that wanted to date. They just never had the time. They only wanted a BF just to have someone--not to invest the communication it took for a relationship to graduate. I wouldn't knock her hobbies or her horses. But when it is all said and done, I am making time for you, so you should be making time for me also. Every Tuesday I go to play pickup basketball at a gym. This happens every week and I look forward to it--believe me! But I do not find it hard to miss a Tuesday or two to be with my GF on those days. It wouldn't kill me. People have certain thresholds of affection. If you don't have the time to date, you just don't have the time. 1
Author Whisky1981 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Even though this experience I am stating is different from yours, me personally, I wouldn't be able to take her seriously. I would treat her more like a friend then. I've seen this with single moms that wanted to date. They just never had the time. They only wanted a BF just to have someone--not to invest the communication it took for a relationship to graduate. I wouldn't knock her hobbies or her horses. But when it is all said and done, I am making time for you, so you should be making time for me also. Every Tuesday I go to play pickup basketball at a gym. This happens every week and I look forward to it--believe me! But I do not find it hard to miss a Tuesday or two to be with my GF on those days. It wouldn't kill me. People have certain thresholds of affection. If you don't have the time to date, you just don't have the time. Thank you. Yes I totally agree with you. I have never demanded something from her but I think that is normal to place your BF/GF before something else from time to time. The problem is that I have always had the feeling of being in her 5th place or worse. So this started to bother me after a while. Probably there is nothing more to do but part ways....its a shame thou because when we are together we have a great time.
preraph Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 (edited) Sorry but I really don't understand your point. I am searching for an advice if I should ditch her or try to work something out, not some philosophic cr*p. Thanks anyway. Yeah. Thanks for calling my little dose of reality "philosophic crap." I love it when people come to this board, ask for advice, and then get mad when someone says something they didn't want to hear. Edited April 23, 2015 by preraph 1
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