simon_uk Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Why cant I move on! Why are all my thoughts and dreams focussedon the x? I have tried everything to get over it and just keep busy. I have spent lots of time with friends, time for myself, etc but all I do is think about her and what she is thinking. i cant stop thinking about all the things she said to me and I am forever trying to think of ways to win her back, I know I cant win her back if she doesnt want to come back but why wont it STOP!
NTB Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 cause my friend your in love with her.......it sucks and it will be a while until you can move on but it will happen for you
Author simon_uk Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 yes and I just want to tell so much but i cant!
NTB Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 i know how you feel believe me the only thing keeping me sane right now is work but after i get out of here i turn into a mess.......i play hide and seek with my godson i let him have my cell phone and let him hide it just so i won't call my x...
Author simon_uk Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 thanks I know I am not the only person feeling this way but I just feel bsolutely lost without her and so confused! i know i have my faults and did things wrong but so did she. I just wouldnt have left her thats all. I never cheated, I never hurt her or abused her, i would never break her heart. Maybe my faults were much worse than any of those i dont know but she is gone and there is nothing I can do about it now
willduggan Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 im in a similar boat right now also. my ex dumped me a week ago (this was the second time, we were engaged the first time) it hurts like hell and you just have to accept that both sides had faults but the fact that you were willing to work on them makes you a better person. remember, they dumped YOU, someone who loved them so much youd work out anything, they gave up on you, they quit, and its gonna suck for a while(believe me... shes now engaged to the guy she was dating during our first breakup after being apart from me for a WEEK!!) but your gonna find someone better, more compatable, more loving, and your gonna say to yourself, why did i ever let myself hurt this bad over someone who didnt care enough about me to work things out?
latefragment Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 back in the dumps again. help! i know, i am so pathetic... the "ex" gave me really mixed signals. last week was crazy about me, sweet and affectionate. i felt ready to move on - like i had gotten what i wanted and didn't need anything more from him than the memory of him being sweet to me. broke down and called though... last night he was cold and distant, mean... he sucks. i left bruised... set back a little, disappointed. heart hurts now... why was i such an idiot to believe the nice things he said to me, he even said "i love you" twice... why did i stumble into that trap? because i was sad about other things in my life and felt vulnerable, just needed someone familiar... believe me i am not under any delusions that he is the love of my life or even boyfriend material - i am just feeling freaked out about life in general and he's a familiar face... so like a retard i reach for the flame, only to get burned every OTHER time - every time i don't get burned i feel like it's okay to reach for the flame again, only i don't realize that just because i didn't get burned this time, it's only a matter of time before i get burned again. argh i hate how weak i've become - weak and helpless - gutted, broken, just because i can't get other parts of my life in order, it's so easy to allow myself to think about him and want him back, even though he's so toxic for me, i think about all the good things about him... does anyone else relate???? please speak up if you do...??? thanks..
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