Let's have some fun - share your stories of how your lost your dignity!

[Maverick27]

I am interested to hear other people stories of how they lost their dignity and/or self respect after having the rug pulled out from under them!!

 

GO!

[fastjack]

I can totally relate to this!

 

Here's mine: (mostly from ex-gf)

 

- ex-gf was really mad and threatening to jump out of the car. I pulled her (using force because she might cause an accident). She said I was hurting her physically. When we got inside her house, she locked herself in the toilet and was scared of me. When she got out, she said that I should strip to my underwear just to prove that i don't have any weapon.

 

- got slapped because I was late.

- cursed me right on my face

- called me a b!tch

[Chi townD]

LMAO! What?!?!? How is my story of losing my dignity any fun?!?!

 

 

Ummm..okay. Confronting my girlfriend with her cheating resulted in her blasting me and telling me that I was a loser and going nowhere in life; satisfied working dead-end jobs was a pretty good kick to the nuts and to the ego.

 

 

But, I proved her wrong MASSIVELY!

[totenkopf]

I was dumped by my ex gf I did a lot of things which some would consider made me lose my dignity but I did not lose anything. It was her that lost the crumbs of dignity that she had when she let a man become involved with her sons life and would call us a family, have me go to his school play's and asked me to sign a card to " son " on his birthday weeks before leaving me to then get into a relationship months later then engaged after six weeks with some fat slob who takes pleasure in shooting animals and she is a vegetarian by the way haha

[Musicguy201]

How about the night I asked her if we should be exclusive and she replied, "I have a date tomorrow"... Verbal kick to the groin, accomplished!

 

Or the time I bounced into the restaurant full of enthusiasm about future dates and activities and she said, "I can't see you anymore". Cue the music: Send In The Clowns...

 

These were by the same lady, BTW. She wound up missing me, we got back together, and she dumped me for good several months later. "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me..."

 

And the real shame is that, if she were to contact me today, I'd probably take her back. Fool me 3 times, please just lock me up...

[DJOkawari]

This is a great exercise!

 

Ex contacts me to reconcile. We agree to "take it slow". About a week later, we unknowingly end up attending an event together. My friend was holding the door open for our group and I was the last to enter. She was the first in her group - directly behind me. We made eye contact, I noticed the guy directly next to her was awfully close to her and decided not to acknowledge either.

 

She comes up to me and complains about the cold-shoulder. I angrily point out about how less than a week ago she wanted to reconcile and now she's with another guy. She said she "didn't expect it to happen", I told her that I didn't either and that she should F*** off. Blocked her on everything online. Later, I get an email from an address that I had never seen before - it's her apologizing. This is where I lose my dignity:

 

I forgive her. I write back an email that is 4x the length explaining my feelings for her. It makes her weak in the knees, we meet up the next day and cry together (in a public building). Then we're more in love than ever, talking, kissing, touching, it's like a dream. Then maybe 5 days later, she's not. Haven't really seen her since (saw her once in public but I think I avoided her/her friend's gaze successfully).

 

Her best friend ends up running into me one night and asks me about my ex and I'm a little drunk and I confess how I'm still hopeful things will workout between her and I. I'm sure my ex got the memo and the attached ego boost. Oh well, live and learn I suppose...sadly I think I would still take her back if she could convince me enough, but writing this all down reminds me of the BS I've been though (that previous time was our second attempt at reconciling - both initiated by her...though I also, sadly, suspect it is the last).

Edited April 28, 2015 by DJOkawari

[Mrin]

Love this idea!

 

Its college. Senior week for my GF (I was a junior). We're both in the greek system. I'm partying. She's partying. I notice that I haven't seen her since noon. I ask around and she was last seen with this guy named Jamie. In my drunk state I go over to his house and knock on the door. Dude answers in his boxers and nothing else. I'm like, "hey I want to talk to my GF have you seen her?". Dude was like, "No, I haven't seen her since the pig roast this afternoon." I look down and there are her shoes right inside the door. And her shorts. And shirt. And bra and panties. I point it out to Jamie and all he can say is sorry. She came running for the door holding a pillow in front of her and I just took off. Went back to the house and drank myself silly.

 

It gets worse. Somehow, we don't break up the next day. She comes back all crying and everything and honestly, I don't have the energy and really just want to have fun during Senior Week. I tell her I am going to think about it. Two days later we are both at a college bar. I'm drinking. She's drinking. I go to the men's room and she's there with a guy named Al (Jamie's friend) and they're shoving their tongues down each others throats. I tap him on the shoulder and say, "I'm not cutting in. Just keep the b****"

[sutsie]

Yeah i got dumped after 3 years by text message a couple months ago, wrote a love letter and got denied. I'd consider that losing my dignity sense the day i got denied she was texting every guy in her phonebook about how awful i was. Safe to say they all blocked her number since they were my friends. That's how all my friends found out we broke up. SLUT

[SLee]

Ex dumped me after 3.5 years. Turns out he was texting my best friend behind my back constantly for weeks. And the whole week we were out of town ignoring each other, he was texting her.

 

It gets back to him how miserable I was (constantly crying, not eating, etc.) and he tells my friend, who then casually texts me like "hey how are you?" when she knew exactly what was up the whole time. I told her everything that was going on, even though she was already in the loop. When I found out about all this, I was humiliated.

 

So I let the texting go on because I wanted to respect their feelings, but it was so hurtful and I was sick of the BS and then asked them to stop, so they did.

 

Also I did the whole begging, pleading, crying business. Not my proudest moment. Good news is, I'm stronger now and I refuse to put up with BS like this ever again.