losangelena Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 I dunno, OP. If I were here and got that message, I'd be like, "then why didn't you just reach out if you wanted to talk to me?" I would call, first of all, not text, ask her out again, and then apologize for being out of pocket for so long.
Author MyFault69 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 Quick update. She responded back and thought I lost interest but she agreed to meet me today for coffee and said her wall is now up. I will meet her in a few hours. Any advice on how to handle it except put myself out there brutally honest?
Gaeta Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 Quick update. She responded back and thought I lost interest but she agreed to meet me today for coffee and said her wall is now up. I will meet her in a few hours. Any advice on how to handle it except put myself out there brutally honest? No other options. You go there apologize and tell her you were in the wrong and you won't make assumptions in the future. She is willing to see you again, she must like you a great deal how many more proofs do you need at this point! Be a big man and take it all on you. 2
Author MyFault69 Posted April 24, 2015 Author Posted April 24, 2015 So I met with her and laid it all out on the line for her which she saw by how exposed I left myself. She said she still liked me but she had her wall up but agreed to go out on another date this Tuesday. I'm worried now of any distance felt when we meet but I guess If I like her I got to make effort.
Popsicle Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 PMS? Are you kidding me? That's the oldest line in the book. She probably was upset that you didn't respond in kind the night before when she said she was falling for you. She is smart to leave you alone.
Popsicle Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 So I met with her and laid it all out on the line for her which she saw by how exposed I left myself. She said she still liked me but she had her wall up but agreed to go out on another date this Tuesday. I'm worried now of any distance felt when we meet but I guess If I like her I got to make effort. Yes you will have to prove your feelings for her now
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 24, 2015 Posted April 24, 2015 If both of you aren't talking to each other, it sounds like both of you aren't interested. If one of you are interested - stop playing games!
joseb Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 PMS? Are you kidding me? That's the oldest line in the book. She probably was upset that you didn't respond in kind the night before when she said she was falling for you. She is smart to leave you alone. I agree, I think that's why she left. But I'd also be a little concerned about the "falling for you" after such a short period of time. She seems a little needy to be honest. Good luck with it.
Gaeta Posted April 25, 2015 Posted April 25, 2015 So I met with her and laid it all out on the line for her which she saw by how exposed I left myself. She said she still liked me but she had her wall up but agreed to go out on another date this Tuesday. I'm worried now of any distance felt when we meet but I guess If I like her I got to make effort. Good job! In life nothing risked nothing gained. If you want to experience great love you have to risk getting hurt to get there. The distance you felt will go away with time. It's normal to feel that way after 2 weeks and a big misunderstanding. Let us know how's the next date
Author MyFault69 Posted April 26, 2015 Author Posted April 26, 2015 (edited) Well we been texting but she's distant with responding fast sometimes taking hours and in fact hasn't responded to my last text ten hours ago. I know her wall is up and she might be afraid or testing me to see if I continue trying its just hard after being left so vulnerable and exposed to keep pushing. I will keep trying until I see her tuesday if it actually happens. Edited April 26, 2015 by MyFault69
Author MyFault69 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Okay to summarize, I met with her two days ago she said she still liked me but her wall is up but agreed to go out on a date with me Tuesday but after texting next day she hasn't replied to my text from yesterday afternoon or the one I sent her this morning wishing her luck in her softball game. How do I tell if her not responding is to leave her alone or testing me to see if I'm serious in pursuing her?
preraph Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 You're just being stubborn and not thinking about her feelings. She put her heart on the line telling you she cared about you and then disappeared on her the next day for 2 weeks, and for some reason you think she should be the one to contact you now? So you let it go 2 weeks and let her sit there feeling like you took off because you don't like her. And I guess you don't if you want to make her come crawling to you. 1
Versacehottie Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 Why do you and so many other guys get so hung up on chicks with so many damn issues? You're dating a little over a WEEK and she wakes up and tells you she had PMS?? Then goes silent for 15 days? Low self esteem, needs constant reassurance, all after only one week. Come on now dude, you can do better than this, don't ya think? Sheesh. I did think it's weird that she told him she had PMS a week in. How strange. I don't get though why people or OP would think she has low self esteem if she failed to initiate contact. If that logic is correct, so by same token would the OP. I think she's just being a girl who expects the guy to make the moves at the beginning. Some people would call those girls with high self esteem who have other options so they don't need to chase a guy. Telling about PMS and needing to be reassured about her looks to me indicate that she is probably high maintenance and hung up on looks. Sounds kind of princess-y. If OP, wants to contact her though he should. I'm guessing he probably knows fault lies somewhere in the middle. If he is still thinking about her 15 days later, she might be thinking about him as well. Has nothing to lose. The one thing where I agree that she had a responsibility to contact him was she kind of banished him with the PMS talk. Therefore, up to her to let him know when the banishment is lifted lol. It's all confusingly silly.
Author MyFault69 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Yah I think you missed my last post I did contact her and saw her in person and laid it all on line how I felt. She agreed to another date Tuesday but now she hasn't replied to my last two texts from yesterday so I'm not sure if she's testing me to see if I'm serious in pursuing her or to leave her alone and I'm unsure how to proceed.
losangelena Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 See her tomorrow like you planned. She's unsure, and after two weeks of no communication, it's almost like you're having to start from square one. Give her some space. Her trust has been broken, and her feelings are probably not what they were. So be consistent with her and keep your word. See what she has to say when you see her tomorrow.
Author MyFault69 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Yah but she didn't reply to my texts. I guess only thing I can do is text her tomorrow to see if were still on. I feel weird without getting response.
losangelena Posted April 27, 2015 Posted April 27, 2015 So you all have no set plans for tomorrow? The best you can do is give her a time and place and a "see you there?" What happens after that is out of your hands. If she ignores you, or changes her mind, then you know.
Author MyFault69 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Posted April 27, 2015 Yah no set plans. I figure something fun like bowling but the fact she hasn't replied to my last two texts makes me afraid of even texting her again.
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