VedderisBetter Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) I dated a girl for over 6 years. We broke up almost 2 years ago. She is now living with her fiancee. I just received a message randomly from her sister who I think at least liked me in the beginning of the relationship and seemed jealous of her sister. Here was what she sent me: "Awe (Name)! Have you had any luck on here yet?? I just signed up today just to see if it would be worth it. A lot of weirdos so far! Ha How have you been though?" Is my ex's sister trying to get with me? I don't think dating is an option for the two of us but possibly FWB but that would admittedly be pretty low on both our parts. Edited April 23, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Personally identifiable information
FortunateSon Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Ha! If your ex dumped you, I say go for it...it's not like your ex can break up with you again:D 1
Author VedderisBetter Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 I broke up with her. It took her awhile to move on(she asked me out after the breakup and I refused) but she got the hint and moved on.
FortunateSon Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I broke up with her. It took her awhile to move on(she asked me out after the breakup and I refused) but she got the hint and moved on. In that case, it might be best not to pursue anything. Be friendly with the ex's sister, but no more than that.
Gary S Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Don't do it, it might mess up the sister's relationship. Have a heart guy. 2
kendahke Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 "Awe Neil! Have you had any luck on here yet?? I just signed up today just to see if it would be worth it. A lot of weirdos so far! Ha How have you been though?" Is my ex's sister trying to get with me? I don't think dating is an option for the two of us but possibly FWB but that would admittedly be pretty low on both our parts. No. It sounds like she ran across your profile and sent you a "hi, how are you doing" message. She probably then called or texted her sister to tell her she found you on the site. 3
BikerAccnt Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 No. It sounds like she ran across your profile and sent you a "hi, how are you doing" message. She probably then called or texted her sister to tell her she found you on the site. Probably this. I know I've messaged people I've seen on dating sites that I know, but have no intention of dating. It's fun/nice to see that you're not the only person looking.
fluidian Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 It could be trying to get with you, but I'm prone to thinking that she saw you on the site, hadn't seen you for a while, and just thought she'd say hi. I wouldn't read anything into it, and at a minimum, since you broke up with her sister, as Gary said, have a heart and be nice to her family...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 No need to hit on her right away, just talk with her and see where things go - in subsequent messages her intentions might become more apparent.
PogoStick Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Her sister has a fiance and it's been 2 years. She's no longer has the right to be jealous. If the dating became serious it would be on the sisters to sort it out. Regardless, ask her out! Make it really casual at first "Hey I haven't talked to you in forever! Let's grab a drink on Friday and catch up." Just see how it goes.
Author VedderisBetter Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) I've known this girl for 7 or so years. She found me on a dating site and asked me if I've had any luck so far. Usually when I ask someone this it's because I am curious to see who all they are talking to. Do you think this is what she meant? Edited April 23, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Leaving in tact even though it's duplicate information.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 From personal experience, I have no clue as I don't online date, But I truly don't think she'd reach out if her heart was full of hate, She may have been surprised to see you on the site and just wanted to say hi, Or she could be informing her sister of what you're doing like a spy. If you're into her and you feel that enough time has passed to pursue, Then flirt with her and don't be afraid to hear her sister curse you, Some sisters have bonds which rule out dating each other's ex, But then again...some sisters may screw the same guy because it's great sex. 1
rester Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Is this girl the girl from your other thread? Your ex's sister? I would guess she's hoping you tell her that you haven't had any luck, but she could just be curious.
katiegrl Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I've known this girl for 7 or so years. She found me on a dating site and asked me if I've had any luck so far. Usually when I ask someone this it's because I am curious to see who all they are talking to. Do you think this is what she meant? I think you should stop over-thinking. If this was your ex's sister, it sounds like she was just attempting to make simple conversation with an old friend... some who used to date her sister. If this was a new girl, again, it was her attempt to initiate a conversation. Where it goes from there is anyone's guess. Doesn't mean anything other than that.
EgoJoe Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 If you genuinely like the sister talk to her. You won't like being the guy who callously bangs both of them though. She was interested though otherwise she would not have said hello. The question is how much. Women will never initiate if they are not interested.
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