redwing7 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 My gf just broke up with me and I want to write her a letter. Hello. My girlfriend just broke up with me due to me leaving the country for a few years here in a two weeks to do volunteer work. (A childhood dream of mine I'd had planned for years.) I have really strong feelings for her and would like to rekindle our feelings and relationship once I come back if she's still available. I already started writing her a letter because I was going to be the one to break up with her, but I never finished it. I want to fill the letter with memories of us together, my thoughts and hopes for her; as well as my future, and the hope that maybe love will find us again someday when I return. What would you guys put in the letter to end on a good note and leave a fire burning for the future? Also, should I give it to her now since we just broke up an hour ago, or should I wait? If so, how long? Thanks everyone.
PogoStick Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 You shouldn't write her with the hope of getting back together. Share your positive memories. Tell her she's amazing. Then send her off, wishing for her to find love and happiness.
Jame22 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) No letters ever. I know it sounds like a good idea right now but trust me, i've been there, and it's most definitely not. Just leave her alone. If she comes back, you two run into each other and you both happen to be single then you can try to rekindle. that however is pretty slim. Don't get your hopes up. Edited April 22, 2015 by Jame22
fitnessfan365 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Dude no offense, but you're both 18 years old, and you're going to be gone for two years. I know it seems like the end of the world right now. But emotions are always heightened when you're young. Plus if I remember correctly, this is a woman that you've only been seeing a little while, that you even worried about being friend zoned with right? So give it a bit of time and before long you'll find another girl that the timing works out with that you'll fall for twice as hard.
Author redwing7 Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 Dude no offense, but you're both 18 years old, and you're going to be gone for two years. I know it seems like the end of the world right now. But emotions are always heightened when you're young. Plus if I remember correctly, this is a woman that you've only been seeing a little while, that you even worried about being friend zoned with right? So give it a bit of time and before long you'll find another girl that the timing works out with that you'll fall for twice as hard. No offense taken. Yeah we're both 18. I've known her for quite some time but only recently fell for her. I was worried about the friend zone in the past only because I haven't been in many relationships outside of having things with girls and didn't want to mess it up. I know there will be others, I still want to believe that there's hope for us at a future time
Author redwing7 Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 No letters ever. I know it sounds like a good idea right now but trust me, i've been there, and it's most definitely not. Just leave her alone. If she comes back, you two run into each other and you both happen to be single then you can try to rekindle. that however is pretty slim. Don't get your hopes up. So you think there's a better chance for us in the future if I don't write one? She says she still wants to be friends. Should I remain in contact with her over the years?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Let her go. Don't send a letter. There is a very high probability that you won't feel the same after the years pass either. Don't even worry about the future with her right now. You have a huge opportunity in front of you, and take my word for it, you will meet other girls. Wish her the best and be on your way. 1
joseb Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Let her go. Don't send a letter. There is a very high probability that you won't feel the same after the years pass either. Don't even worry about the future with her right now. You have a huge opportunity in front of you, and take my word for it, you will meet other girls. Wish her the best and be on your way. Yip, how long were you together? It's likely you will likely feel different in about half that time or less. Enjoy your volunteering, it sounds awesome, great thing to do.
devilish innocent Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 What is your motivation for writing this letter? If there are positive things you want to tell her for no other reason than it makes you feel good to say it, then you can write down those things and send them whenever. However, if you're trying to get her to continue wanting you, then you need to stop. It's like the old saying, "If you love something, let it go". She should be able to move on with her life. It's not fair to her to expect her to wait for you.
d0nnivain Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Do not write the letter. She is clear by her actions that she does not want an LDR. That is all you can offer her at this point. Don't write any letters. When you come back home in a few years, look her up. If you are both single see what happens. In the meantime, do not put your life on hold waiting for her. See where your next adventure takes you.
Jame22 Posted April 23, 2015 Posted April 23, 2015 (edited) So you think there's a better chance for us in the future if I don't write one? She says she still wants to be friends. Should I remain in contact with her over the years? Probably a better chance If you don't write any letters. She wants to be friends and you don't..it's as simple as that. Writing letters would be perfectly fine if you were happy to be her friend. But that's obviously not the case. Stay honest with yourself and her...No letters! Do not stay hung up on this girl! You need to start looking for new dates immediately. Edited April 23, 2015 by Jame22
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