NicoletteCB Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Already less than a month we've broke up and our third week not talking and I heard my ex is seeing another girl. Unadded her on social media and saw she has put " Taken"with a lock picture in all of her profile description boxes. I don't know how to feel. I mean she called me ugly and gave me 10 reasons and then told me I'm boring and a bunch of other cruel things and now she's moved on so quick and is kissing another girl and I'm feeling so...confused. She was my first kiss so I feel awful and really used up. I can't stop analyzing the relationship and my mistakes and why everything is my fault I feel so bad and I'm having such a hard time coping I don't know how to properly heal without feeling really gross.
you must let it go Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Already less than a month we've broke up and our third week not talking and I heard my ex is seeing another girl. Unadded her on social media and saw she has put " Taken"with a lock picture in all of her profile description boxes. I don't know how to feel. I mean she called me ugly and gave me 10 reasons and then told me I'm boring and a bunch of other cruel things and now she's moved on so quick and is kissing another girl and I'm feeling so...confused. She was my first kiss so I feel awful and really used up. I can't stop analyzing the relationship and my mistakes and why everything is my fault I feel so bad and I'm having such a hard time coping I don't know how to properly heal without feeling really gross. your not boring or ugly if she said 10 reasons not wanting to be with you, you can send her 20 resons to f** off! you deserve better and you will.
Twigyy Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 She just gave you a very good reason why not to take her back, and it should be a good closure. My ex also got a new guy in three weeks, it doesn't show how crappy you are, but more about them. I think you deserve someone better. Cheers.
jen1447 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I know you can't just wipe away rejection with a wave of the hand hon, you'll have to grieve your loss like everyone else, but you need to make an effort to understand intellectually that people who go out of their way to hurt others are ugly on the inside, and the reason for that uglyness is usually sth pretty pitiable. People generally attack as a defense mechanism, and it's a defense mechanism bc they've been hurt before themselves and they're trying to beat the next person to the punch by going on the aggressive. Either that or they're horribly insecure and do the same thing, expecting they'll be attacked. Very few people genuinely hurt others just for 'fun.' If they do, they're sadistic and have a whole diff set of personal problems. Given that, it might ease your hurt a little to know that she's a vulnerable person just like everyone else who harbors a substantial amount of hatred and mistrust in her heart. Those are sad, gray traits you can do without in your life. Be better than that. Feel sorry for her. 2
ManyDissapoint Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I know you can't just wipe away rejection with a wave of the hand hon, you'll have to grieve your loss like everyone else, but you need to make an effort to understand intellectually that people who go out of their way to hurt others are ugly on the inside, and the reason for that uglyness is usually sth pretty pitiable. People generally attack as a defense mechanism, and it's a defense mechanism bc they've been hurt before themselves and they're trying to beat the next person to the punch by going on the aggressive. Either that or they're horribly insecure and do the same thing, expecting they'll be attacked. Very few people genuinely hurt others just for 'fun.' If they do, they're sadistic and have a whole diff set of personal problems. Given that, it might ease your hurt a little to know that she's a vulnerable person just like everyone else who harbors a substantial amount of hatred and mistrust in her heart. Those are sad, gray traits you can do without in your life. Be better than that. Feel sorry for her. I like the stuff you post. Good advice. 1
TunaCat Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I swear 3 weeks must be the time where all the dumpers go out and replace the dumpee. My ex started seeing someone else 3 weeks after he dumped me. It sucks. Anyone that says cruel things about you does not deserve to inhabit any part of your brain.
you must let it go Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I swear 3 weeks must be the time where all the dumpers go out and replace the dumpee. My ex started seeing someone else 3 weeks after he dumped me. It sucks. Anyone that says cruel things about you does not deserve to inhabit any part of your brain. I found my EX a day after she broke up with her EX iv been a 16 years rebound I'm sure shes back with him iv seen her texts back and for with him F%^& um
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