Madhavok Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Going to make this pretty short. Met a girl through mutual friends. Talked for a month and then finally got together - 2.5 months. Clicked right off of the bat. We were about two hours away, but I would come down to hang with her and my mutual friends and also ride my bikes for training every weekend. We grew pretty close, told each other that this fun thing we had had turned into more and we decided to be exclusive. Even went on a weekend trip together. She had to move for work, which would be two hours from me the other way. So she had a bit of traveling for training and such. We kept in contact and everything was good. I came to visit her in her new place a week or so ago and everything was normal. I left and she became distant. A few days later she called to end it citing she thought the spark was gone, different pages in life (I'm 33, she 24, but a mature 24), and she didn't want to be held back in a new town because of me - not that I would hold her back, but she would be too comfortable with me and not do anything (yes, I know, not be tied down, no commitments). I say, well let's meet in a week or so and reevaluate what's going down with us. My plan was NC and it was going well until she called me a few days after she ended it. Had four or five missed calls and a text that said, 'I tried' from her. She calls again and we talk. She wanted to come up and hang with me and our mutual friends and proceeds to tell me how she misses me and misses being with me, was surprised I answered the phone and thought I just didn't care anymore. She had been drinking. She says she'd call me the next day and nothing. I also didn't say anything of the sort to her. Just listened. I still say NC and let her come back to me if she meant it. What say you Loveshack?
FortunateSon Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I just went through something very simlar(length, age difference, circumstance), I know what you are going through. Your best bet is to continue NC and move on, she knows your number and how to reach you. If she was that in to you, she wouldn't worry about being held back.
Author Madhavok Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 Right. She also did utter those three little words the same weekend before she ended it while we were hooking up - both of us had been drinking. I kinda dodged it and didn't say it back. Why did she call me and talk to me like we normally do, tell me how she misses everything about me, and not do any sort of follow up? Embarrassed? Thought oh **** what did I do? Waiting on me? Thanks again.
mightycpa Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 My thought is that when you're 24, actually being there counts for a helluva lot.
Author Madhavok Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 As in being in the same area and now a two hour drive? We had talked about it and she said she would never do long distance again, but for some reason with me she wanted to. I'll keep on my NC and see if she gets back to me. Weird she said all of those things one night and hasn't made contact since. Oh well.
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