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I'm a guy who has had an online dating profile for the past year on POF site. During that time I've had one harmless lady stalking my profile. She views my profile but doesn't message. Happens once or twice a month for the past year.

 

She chooses to view my profile so that I know she visited. I once viewed her profile anonymously from the search (while not logged in) so she wouldn't know I visited. Her profile pictures are way below average, blurry, serious looking selfies. However, she writes on her profile that she is picky and won't settle. She has a laundry list of demands... which I unfortunately match (age range, race, religion, education, job type, minimum height, specific types of interests, wanting children, having no children yet, never married). She doesn't even bring to the table some of the things she demands.

 

Another one of her profile visits happened again today. I don't want her to waste her time on me hoping I will court her. Should I message her and say something?

 

What would you do in this scenario?

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I wouldn't do anything unless she reaches out to you. If that happens I would politely let her know that you aren't interested in her. Then if it continues I would find a way to block her from viewing your profile.

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I don't see a problem.

 

What does it matter who views your profile, if they don't contact you?

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Yeah, I don't understand the issue, really. Just ignore it, there's nothing to do :)

 

She may not realize that it shows who has visited a profile, or think that it registers to the recipient as any issue. If I were on a site I can imagine that being the case with me. I might be looking over who was recommended for me, or considering messaging someone or whatever, and keep ending up on a page, oblivious to the idea that they were even noticing.

 

It would seem kind of presumptuous and possibly cruel if you messaged her to reject her before you even knew her intentions.

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I don't see a problem.

 

What does it matter who views your profile, if they don't contact you?

 

 

 

 

What he said.

 

I've had many male and also a few daily/weekly female viewers when on OLD and for longer periods of time. Just ignore them. :)

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What he said.

 

I've had many male and also a few daily/weekly female viewers when on OLD and for longer periods of time. Just ignore them. :)

 

'She' :)

 

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NO, you should not communicate with her! Can you not totally block her? Because that's what you need to do.

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For real? Pleeze :rolleyes:

 

No one is stalking anyone...

 

I do that a lot. I'll be on the fence about contacting someone, so now and then I'll check out their profile and do sort of a list in my head of "pro's and con's". To avoid creeping out people, I put as a privacy setting that doesn't let people know if I viewed their profile...

 

And yes, I am picky too...

 

BTW, sometimes I also just look out of curiosity and have zero interest in the guy. I mean, the ones who change their status from "single" to "married" to "separated" and/or been on OLD for over a year? Yea, you're curious to see why they are still online and what kind of game they think they are playing with the flippn't changes to their profile.

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She's probably viewing your profile while she's um.. playing with herself.

 

That would definitely freak me out. Especially if she was a deceptive fugly. Not sure why that would matter. Like.. why would I be ok with some hottie fingering herself while viewing my profile?

 

Anyway I digress. If it was me, if for nothing else but to have some fun with it, I'd message her and say "Why do you keep viewing my profile?" and see what she comes back with.

 

It doesn't obligate you to date her.

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maybe she just likes your pictures. I would not worry about it unless your rabbit shows up missing.

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I visited your thread today.

 

It means nothing BTW. I'm just bored.

 

What effort do you think it takes to click on someone's profile on an online dating site? Does it cost her anything to click? Time? Most people waste plenty of that online.

 

What if everytime she clicked on your profile, it was because she forgot she already looked at your profile?

 

I don't do online dating, but I did create a profile and skim it. I click on plenty of girls (I'm a dude) that I have no interest in. It doesn't mean anything. I have also clicked on a girls profile and come to the realization she has that one really good pic of herself.....that is completely mis-leading. And then I forget and click on it again.

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'She' :)

 

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Whoops!

Sorry Satu! :)

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Can you block her? If not, just ignore. If you react and message her it's going to cause her to react and make drama happen.

 

You don't know her intentions, if she is truly stalking you or just being nosy, wants to peak in on your profile.

 

Fact is, it's public and anybody can look, no crime in that. If it bugs you that much, shut down that account and join another site.

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