unemomentobebe Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 For the last year, I have been fighting back and forth with myself to break it off with my daughter's father. He has been verbally, mentally, and physically abusive towards me, and even more-so during my pregnancy. I have struggled with the belief in my mind that if I don't try harder to overcome these issues with him, that I will have failed my daughter, by not providing the family I've always wanted for her. Am I being too hard on myself about this, or do you think I'm giving up to easily? I have heard of wives giving their all for their husbands, but I honestly can't see myself giving much more to him. We had been together for 3 years before I broke it off. He said he has 'moved on', but he is always telling me how much he loves me and misses me; how much he wants us to be a family again. I have started an LDR with one of my friends that I've been talking to for a long time. I honestly don't think I will go back, but does anyone have any good reasons for me to stay gone, or to possibly turn back to him? I'm just curious. I've been contradicting myself with this belief that he would eventually treat me how I feel I deserve to be treated, and that my belief in his true potential would pay off, or I'd end up feeling used and abused and looking back on life, wishing I had left when I had the chance. This is a hypothetical, I know that I am moving on.
TunaCat Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 The only way you are failing your daughter is if you STAY in this marriage. All I needed to read was that he was physically, emotionally and mentally abusive to you. Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking that's what love is? Do you want your daughter to end up with someone like her dad because she doesn't know anything else? Please, please leave this relationship. You and your daughter deserve so much better. 2
jen1447 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 No good reasons to turn back, infinite good reasons to stay gone. The one and only potential reason to stay with an abuser would be if it somehow benefited children from that relationship, which TunaCat just clearly demonstrated it doesn't. You're totally in the right and in the clear having left. Stay that way.
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