He's twice my age...I know it can't work so should I just stop it or have fun?

[elizabeth21]

We talked awhile back and then we reconnected in November (he's my friend's uncle). My family found out and they flipped out. I got like shunned and my dad is still furious to this day about it. If his name is brought up in my house he freaks out and calls him a child molester and says he's a creep. The man is far from anything but a creep. I'm still a virgin and he respects that. He does nothing that I don't want to do.

 

I know we won't end up together since I'm only 20 and I want kids, a man who can be apart of the family, and just someone younger in general. He knows that and he respects that. When we're together we laugh til we pee and we have great chemistry. He's my best friend but idk where to go from here.

 

I feel bad for even looking at other guys but he said we're not dating so I can do what I want it's my life. I'm worried someone will come along and I'm gonna leave him. I don't want to hurt him but he said it won't and he understands. But I know he'll be upset because he likes me more than I like him and it freaks me out sometimes. I feel guilty to lieing to my family these past few months that I've been with him. I need a man who I can hold his hand in public and not wait until dark to go out. We're both exhausted of trying to not bump into certain people. I'm tired of everyone thinking he's a creep too because he's not and he's so sweet to everybody. Everyone loves him but my family. Advice?

 

 

 

He also treats me like a princess. He's not very romantic but boy is he sweet lol. I feel like it's more of infatuation and we're just enjoying each other while we can. He's there for me through thick and thin and always lightens my mood. I just wish he was 25 years younger..I don't need a man but idk why I want him for the time?

[central]

Since you're BOTH realistic that this won't last long-term, and he understands that you may want to date other men, then enjoy it for what it is while it lasts. Stay honest with each other, and neither of you will have regrets or be hurt - though disappointed when it ends, probably.

 

I had a FWB about half my age, and that lasted several years. Think the whole thing through periodically, and don't let this arrangement cause you to pass up someone who may be ideal for a long term relationship. Of course, IMO you should play the field until your later 20's, but that's just my take based on my life experience.

[elizabeth21]

Thanks. It's like we're dating but we're not...idk what to even call it cause we're not FWB so is it just a long phase? Almost 5 months now. I want to have options this summer to meet potential life partners.

[dancingsunflowers80]

Just reading through your post, it sounds like you've already made up your mind. Maybe talking it out with him would be helpful to make your decision. Praying for you girlie!

 

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