GreenWellington Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I posted here earlier last week, but my girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me (Now 6 days post-break up). It was a civil break up, I still feel hurt but getting better slowly but surely. I've initiated NC and made it clear from the beginning. She had to give me back a few things including my house key that she seemed to be putting off. She finally texted me yesterday saying she will put my house key at the top of my apartment stairs. I told her to simply leave it in my mailbox outside (I didn't want to notice or know that she was around if ever she brought it, I didn't want to see her). She then texted ''do u hate me?''. I didn't answer, as I'm trying to continue NC. She then said ''Okay, sorry to bother you then ...'' after I didnt answer. I still havent answered, as this was last night. I feel so conflicted. I know she's probably looking to rid herself of some guilt and all, but I do want her to know that I don't hate her. It wasnt a bad break up and we wished each other the best. She knows this and I made it clear that there was no animosity towards her. I don't want to come off as an ass. Maybe a simple ''No I don't'' would be okay..but I feel it would spiral into another conversation that I dont want to have. Should I simply continue NC? I feel as if I already know the answer, but maybe people here have varying opinions. Thanks!
Poppyolive Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You've already told her. I wouldn't worry. Just leave it and continue your no contact. Why rehash everything, again?
PegNosePete Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You are right, she is simply attention seeking and trying to make herself feel better. It will spiral off into another conversation. Better to leave it dead now. No response. Oh and change your locks. You never know why she was delaying giving your key back. She could easily have made a copy which her new boyfriend will find and use to break into your home and steal your things, which your insurance won't cover since a key was used. Changing the locks is simple and cheap and well worth it for peace of mind and security.
Author GreenWellington Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Youre both right..I haven't answered and I won't in this case. Thanks for the answers. It's a good point you bring up with the house key duplicate and all, but I don't think she'd have the motivation to actually follow through with that plan. There are crazy people out there though...
PegNosePete Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You may be right but it's worth $15 to know for sure that your home is secure.
Chi townD Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Yeah, one thing about girls, they can't stand the fact that there might be a person on this planet that hates them or doesn't think they're a nice person. Drives them nuts. But, not your problem. Write it off and start to focus on what's important right now and the only thing you have control over and that would be you and your well being.
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