Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 ok 2 issues here: 1: Been chatting to a girl online for a couple of days, seemed to hit it off and im not one for conversation tennis or gathering pen-pals so we arranged a date for tomorrow night. She said she would need to arrange child care and would let me know if our plans were concrete, I said that was fine and asked about picking her up or would she rather meet at the place been that im a stranger. No reply. This was on sunday and shes been online yesterday and today. Should I chase a reply or just take it shes had cold feet? I messaged her last year when I was on POF but had no reply, this time around I did so I wonder if she just doesnt find me that attractive. Next issue: 2: I met a girl about a month ago, again online, I wrote about her here how we hit it off and had a nice date and planned more. That second date has never materialized, even though we have talked pretty much every single day, both instigating conversation. There always seems to be "something" when trying to arrange. Should I just cut my losses here? Thanks
PegNosePete Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 1. Seems like she bailed. 2. If she was interested then she would not make excuses. Yes cut losses with both. Next! 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Yes, you should move on. They both bailed on you. Maybe because they're not who they say they are, they're overweight, they found another guy to meet up with, they changed their mind or they're hiding something. I'm especially bewildered with the woman who you said you both were talking to each other every single day...weird. I'd never talk to a guy that much if I wasn't interested in meeting him. .
Author Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Yes, you should move on. They both bailed on you. Maybe because they're not who they say they are, they're overweight, they found another guy to meet up with, they changed their mind or they're hiding something. I'm especially bewildered with the woman who you said you both were talking to each other every single day...weird. I'd never talk to a guy that much if I wasn't interested in meeting him. . I've met the second one, shes beautiful, really nice sound girl too. I cant work it out either. Im going to say if we dont have a date soon , and give a date, then theres very little point in talking. As for the first one, who knows. I might make plans for tomorrow now.
cottom Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 If a girl seems attractive she wouldnt be OLD to meet a relationship. A girl will only use OLD to boost self esteem, have a load of guys pay attention to her and make her think shes beautiful. She then goes clubbing and pulls a guy and meets him up, not a "loser" that does OLD. Face it, us guys OLD are just the guys who are sat behind a computer trying to pick up girls rather than displaying confidence approaching girls etc. Im giving up OLD and trying to get back into the old style bar scene now just to practice, im 22, girls say im extremely attractive but exes have destroyed self confidence with cheating so i use OLD to perfect my chat up routine in a club, know what to say and what not to say.
Author Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 If a girl seems attractive she wouldnt be OLD to meet a relationship. A girl will only use OLD to boost self esteem, have a load of guys pay attention to her and make her think shes beautiful. She then goes clubbing and pulls a guy and meets him up, not a "loser" that does OLD. Face it, us guys OLD are just the guys who are sat behind a computer trying to pick up girls rather than displaying confidence approaching girls etc. Im giving up OLD and trying to get back into the old style bar scene now just to practice, im 22, girls say im extremely attractive but exes have destroyed self confidence with cheating so i use OLD to perfect my chat up routine in a club, know what to say and what not to say. can see where you're coming from but I dont think every girl on there can be accused of that.
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You probably scared girl one off when you gave her the option of picking her up. Standard protocol for online dating is to meet for the first time in a public place, such as a resturant. Women should not have strange men coming to their house. After you have met the first time, you can ask to pick her up for date two or 3. You left out some details on girl 2. Generally, you exchange 3-5 messages over a 2-5 days and then ask for a phone number, call them, and then at the end of the call, negotiate a first meet in a public place. Have a complete date plan ready - time, day, and place, don't be lazy and expect her to plan the date - sometimes the good ones will help you, but women like a man with a plan. If you get off the phone without a complete date, move on to the next one... she's not interested or has problems. No callbacks to verify.
Author Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 You probably scared girl one off when you gave her the option of picking her up. Standard protocol for online dating is to meet for the first time in a public place, such as a resturant. Women should not have strange men coming to their house. After you have met the first time, you can ask to pick her up for date two or 3. See thats what I said, I said shall we meet at such an such been that we are strangers but if you cant get there or whatever I dont mind picking you up. I think shes just got cold feet. You left out some details on girl 2. Generally, you exchange 3-5 messages over a 2-5 days and then ask for a phone number, call them, and then at the end of the call, negotiate a first meet in a public place. Have a complete date plan ready - time, day, and place, don't be lazy and expect her to plan the date - sometimes the good ones will help you, but women like a man with a plan. If you get off the phone without a complete date, move on to the next one... she's not interested or has problems. No callbacks to verify. we text for a while before meeting, id say 3 weeks possibly, 1st date was great then I asked if she wanted to go on another date which she said yes to. we planned what to do, food and bowling, and even the night. I was away that weekend and told her so, I got back and text on the tuesday and asked if we were still on for wednesday night and then she said she had forgotten and made plans. Yet she still continues to message and be in depth with me. Its a weird done.
fluidian Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 If a girl seems attractive she wouldnt be OLD to meet a relationship. A girl will only use OLD to boost self esteem, have a load of guys pay attention to her and make her think shes beautiful. She then goes clubbing and pulls a guy and meets him up, not a "loser" that does OLD. Face it, us guys OLD are just the guys who are sat behind a computer trying to pick up girls rather than displaying confidence approaching girls etc. Im giving up OLD and trying to get back into the old style bar scene now just to practice, im 22, girls say im extremely attractive but exes have destroyed self confidence with cheating so i use OLD to perfect my chat up routine in a club, know what to say and what not to say. Ooh - someone's bitter. I have no idea if OLD is hard for 22 year old guys, but it's super easy once you get a bit older. Once people have actual careers, you get a lot of great people OLD (along with a lot of questionable ones - but that's the world in general), because you only meet drunks at bars, meeting friends through friends works, but the volume isn't usually quite enough, etc., so OLD is a great supplement, and I think most people know that. I've met some of the most attractive and successful women I've dated online (and by attractive, we're talking 8s, 9s, and 10s).
katiegrl Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 >>I think she's just got cold feet. ---- Cold feet = changed her mind, turned off. A woman's interest level can change on a dime in this "before you meet" stage. If it was ever even there in the first place. No need to text anything further. Her silence IS your answer. If you learn anything from OLD, it's that!
fitnessfan365 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 If a girl seems attractive she wouldnt be OLD to meet a relationship. A girl will only use OLD to boost self esteem, have a load of guys pay attention to her and make her think shes beautiful. She then goes clubbing and pulls a guy and meets him up, not a "loser" that does OLD. Face it, us guys OLD are just the guys who are sat behind a computer trying to pick up girls rather than displaying confidence approaching girls etc. Im giving up OLD and trying to get back into the old style bar scene now just to practice, im 22, girls say im extremely attractive but exes have destroyed self confidence with cheating so i use OLD to perfect my chat up routine in a club, know what to say and what not to say. Haha.. This post shows exactly why you're not doing well with women. All those beautiful women who don't get approached because guys are too afraid to talk to them have to get dates somewhere. The funny thing though is that they usually end up meeting the same awkward guys too afraid to approach in the first place. LOL Since I finally caved with OLD, I've met and dated my fair share of good looking women. So just because you're not doing well OP, don't make generalizations. Just saying...
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 See thats what I said, I said shall we meet at such an such been that we are strangers but if you cant get there or whatever I dont mind picking you up. I think shes just got cold feet. - You are missing it. You should not have even mentioned picking her up from her house, it's a no-no. He's actually doing well.... some guys can't even get a date. He just needs a few tips to up his game. Another tip: Don't ask for a date while you are still on a date. I don't know why people do this, you should be enjoying the date you are on and not getting needy, worrying about the future. If she texts you after the date, then call and schedule another one. If you don't hear a peep from her, wait 5 days to call her. Playing hard to get doubles attraction.
Author Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Well number one bailed, she replied saying she can't do tomorrow but how about next week.minsaod I had a feeling it would be off and for her to let me know when she might be free next week. Number 2 - contact has been poor past few days. Think it's run its course. On the bright side I do have a date tomorrow with a local girl ive been speaking to since my last OLD but never met. Excited to meet this one.
preraph Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 (edited) All I can tell you is that when childcare is hanging in the air, I've had many last-minute decisions on whether my friends can go with me -- and it's usually because whoever they asked to sit, usually the father or a relative, has put them on hold before saying yes. Next time you are in that position, give them a deadline: Please let me know one way or the other by Friday -- at least a couple of days before. Edited April 21, 2015 by preraph 1
Author Rko28 Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 So the date I was meant to have tonight cancelled... This is a bad run of luck. Said she was finishing work late which might be true, straight away asked if I was free this Friday but unfortunately I'm not. Girl number 1 - messaged me asking how my week is, replied but not heard back but she's been on and offline a lot. Think I'm on the back burner. Girl number 2 - had the daily text and conversation, was getting g fed up so straight up asked if she wants to see me again, she said sure.... As friends as Shes started seeing someone! Had enough of OLD now, it's a joke. Although I have one more date lined up tomorrow, been chatting a while and she's just moved back to my area. Not holding my breath here
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