Augustus64 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Ok, I started dating this new girl for the past few months and everything has been great. The conversation, chemistry & God the sex oh man the sex has been all up to the the standards i have set when looking to take a partner serious going forward. Well please tell me if Im tripping here but 1 night we hung out and we were both in bed i fell asleep turned my back to her but awoke from the glare of her cell phone.. she was texting, texting a boy. I didn't make a fuss in fact when i saw her doing so i made a joke that i would roll back over and give her, her privacy. well then we hung out a week later. She came over late around 10 and while i was using her phone to plug into my surround sound i realized it was on airplane mode & i even made a joke that i would go through her text msgs. wow she hurried to her phone so quickly & said "don't play like that" the next day i confronted her and was like why? she had called me a minute before to open the door for her then as soon as we are upstairs its on airplane mode? so her rebuttal was amnesia, how convenient. she couldn't remember putting her phone on airplane mode. i think its bull **** do you? ok maybe this isnt a big deal but to me i discern this as a symptom of something i refuse to be apart of. thoughts?
MissBee Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Where there is smoke there is fire indeed and her behavior is a little strange. Be alert and follow your gut. 2
toscaroscura Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Have you had a talk to define the relationship/take it to an exclusive level? If not, I don't think you have a right to be upset. However, if you are exclusive and/or she keeps doing this after you talk to her, then yes, I'd say it's very suspicious. 1
beyondcrushed Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You can make assumptions and either assume she's not seeing anyone else and she has male friends and prefers to have cell offline. Or, you can assume she's dating other men. Regardless, you need to decide if you want to be exclusive with her. If yes, then talk to her about being exclusive. If she wants the same, great. Then as you proceed her actions will tell you if she's on the same page or if there's still 'smoke'. These may just be male friends.
beyondcrushed Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 You can make assumptions and either assume she's not seeing anyone else and she has male friends and prefers to have cell offline. Or, you can assume she's dating other men. Regardless, you need to decide if you want to be exclusive with her. If yes, then talk to her about being exclusive. If she wants the same, great. Then as you proceed her actions will tell you if she's on the same page or if there's still 'smoke'. These may just be male friends. I do think it's rude to be on cell with other people, esp. Male, and while I'm sleeping in bed at a man's house who I'm seeing. I'd be p!ssed roles reversed. And would expect he include me in that text conversation.
Mrin Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Oh it is certainly fire. Ya, she is definitely texting someone that she doesn't want you to know about. But - if you guys aren't exclusive then it is just an annoyance. If exclusive - that's a pretty big deal.
GTR King Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 If you 2 are b.f/gf then that's a big red flag if not then she can text who ever she wants. Talk to her & see if she wants to be exclusive with you and go from there. If she truly likes you she will stop texting this supposedly other guy
Author Augustus64 Posted April 23, 2015 Author Posted April 23, 2015 We had a good chat about the matter and you guys were right if we hadn't had the "talk" yet then she isn't beholden to me. I did however communicate my concern about the deceptive nature of the events. Proceeding w caution.
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