Blade96 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 This happened to me online few mins ago but it apply to real life too so I'll leave this here. Seems this forum is a bit more active anyway than the online relationship one. I was talking to a friend of mine on VKontakte (which is sort of a russian facebook) when this guy called himself Garry, this stranger, wrote me out of nowhere: "Oh just wanted to tell you that you are so beautiful, you look younger than your age, I looked through your profile dear and we have so much in common, write me and may God bless you" The thing: I don't HAVE anything on there except a couple of pics and the fact I am Canadian. I use fb and not vk really so I didn't put anything on there! so how would he know if we have anything in common or not? I deleted it. People if you want to try to flirt, at least try to seem intelligent. I have no idea why this guy thought I might respond "oh look how cute, he didn't even read my profile to notice I have nothing on there, oh that REALLY turns me on" sarcasm turned off now.
toscaroscura Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 This happened to me online few mins ago but it apply to real life too so I'll leave this here. Seems this forum is a bit more active anyway than the online relationship one. I was talking to a friend of mine on VKontakte (which is sort of a russian facebook) when this guy called himself Garry, this stranger, wrote me out of nowhere: "Oh just wanted to tell you that you are so beautiful, you look younger than your age, I looked through your profile dear and we have so much in common, write me and may God bless you" The thing: I don't HAVE anything on there except a couple of pics and the fact I am Canadian. I use fb and not vk really so I didn't put anything on there! so how would he know if we have anything in common or not? I deleted it. People if you want to try to flirt, at least try to seem intelligent. I have no idea why this guy thought I might respond "oh look how cute, he didn't even read my profile to notice I have nothing on there, oh that REALLY turns me on" sarcasm turned off now. This honestly sounds like spam..just the way it is worded, plus coming from a stranger. 3
neowulf Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 This happened to me online few mins ago but it apply to real life too so I'll leave this here. Seems this forum is a bit more active anyway than the online relationship one. I was talking to a friend of mine on VKontakte (which is sort of a russian facebook) when this guy called himself Garry, this stranger, wrote me out of nowhere: "Oh just wanted to tell you that you are so beautiful, you look younger than your age, I looked through your profile dear and we have so much in common, write me and may God bless you" The thing: I don't HAVE anything on there except a couple of pics and the fact I am Canadian. I use fb and not vk really so I didn't put anything on there! so how would he know if we have anything in common or not? I deleted it. People if you want to try to flirt, at least try to seem intelligent. I have no idea why this guy thought I might respond "oh look how cute, he didn't even read my profile to notice I have nothing on there, oh that REALLY turns me on" sarcasm turned off now. Yeah, sounds like a scam email, not a legit communication. 1
KatZee Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 It wasn't him being legitimately dumb, it was him sending out one message to tons of different women hoping for a bite. Same thing happened to me on a dating site. The dude was like, "I read your profile and we have so many things in common!" There was nothing on my profile except 3 photos of me and the words, "Send me a message and we'll go from there." He didn't look, all he did was get a ton of profiles of women who visually appealed to him and he cast a wide net. It's lazy, and pretty common behavior from all these "basic" dudes. 3
Author Blade96 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 It wasn't him being legitimately dumb, it was him sending out one message to tons of different women hoping for a bite. Same thing happened to me on a dating site. The dude was like, "I read your profile and we have so many things in common!" There was nothing on my profile except 3 photos of me and the words, "Send me a message and we'll go from there." He didn't look, all he did was get a ton of profiles of women who visually appealed to him and he cast a wide net. It's lazy, and pretty common behavior from all these "basic" dudes. well that behavior gets no bites from me even if I was looking for someone. Not intelligent at all. But fb and vk aren't really dating sites, just social communities.
SawtoothMars Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I totally disagree that making a thread here is akin to personally lambasting the guy. He is none the wiser! Also, people might have the "right" to talk to you, but they don't have the "right" for your response to be what they want it to be. If you go around hitting up complete strangers, you've got to be prepared that not everyone is going to be sufficiently "nice" to you. I don't see him on here bitching about being ignored. I see her throwing a fit. IF he came on and complained... I would tell him where to stick it, but he has moved on... as should she.
guest569 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 (edited) It's CLEARLY a copy and paste, generic, doesn't even know who he is messaging... You call that "work"? Edited April 21, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
todreaminblue Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I had some interesting messages when i was online dating......none of them affected me fi they were a little well...silly..i sent them a smile and a thank you and i just moved on.....to people i was interested in....many facebook type things seem to be a pick up palace......maybe just cancel the thing if it annoys you......or dont reply to people who truly piss you off...... there are worse things that can be done or said...keep a smile on your face.....best wishes....deb
katiegrl Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 It wasn't him being legitimately dumb, it was him sending out one message to tons of different women hoping for a bite. Same thing happened to me on a dating site. The dude was like, "I read your profile and we have so many things in common!" There was nothing on my profile except 3 photos of me and the words, "Send me a message and we'll go from there." He didn't look, all he did was get a ton of profiles of women who visually appealed to him and he cast a wide net. It's lazy, and pretty common behavior from all these "basic" dudes. First paragraph -- beat me to it!!! His message was standard boilerplate. To the guys: Don't do this. Read the profile! 1
Toodaloo Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I don't see him on here bitching about being ignored. I see her throwing a fit. IF he came on and complained... I would tell him where to stick it, but he has moved on... as should she. Oh you haven't read the 101, done to death, threads about why men shouldn't just send 1000 copy paste messages to people...
Author Blade96 Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) copy paste just makes people look bad and not intelligent. And saying they have interest, but writing behavior shows exactly the opposite of what they claim (you're not interested if you didn't even want to even read a profile) I just made this thread here to advise people not to do it. Sure writing a personalized flirt takes time and effort, but even if you do it and get no response at least the recipient knows they took time to look at a profile and to write a nice post that's at least kind of intelligent. and no I didn't lambast the dude. Just deleted it. and No I don't think having a little rant about copy paste stuff on either social net sites or dating sites (or both) makes one a jerk (as someone said I am). some things are fine for copy paste, like telling someone a little about yourself (I'm from america and I'm a CEO and I have 2 kids and a cat) and telling what you like do. But some things just shouldn't be copy pasted. (we have so much in common *even though I haven't read your profile and therefore know jack all about you*) Edited April 22, 2015 by Blade96
kendahke Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I've gotten those. Mainly from catfish. When I ask them specifically what it was that we had in common, what I got back was some unintelligible, mangled English crap which let me know that they were scammers.
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