fluidian Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I've been dating a great girl for a few months, and while there isn't anything intrinsically wrong, there's a bit less excitement, a few things about her seem a bit annoying, I'm not entirely sure where things are going, etc. I'm guessing that this is the likely waning of the honeymoon/infatuation stage of a relationship, which seems a bit early, but it's obviously not clockwork. So I'm stuck trying to figure out what's normal, acceptable, etc., and what's more of a detail breaker. Moreover, what gets better once you get out of this phase (I know the excitement is less, but I've heard other things can be better - maybe I should keep my eye out for those)? Anything get worse (other than less excitement)? Regardless, we've been seeing each other pretty frequently and probably spend the night together 4-5 times/week. The good thing, though, is that she seems to want to try to give me space when I want it/need it...I just haven't really seemed to ask for any (yet). I'm going to keep going with it for a little while, just so I don't do anything ridiculous (and as mentioned, things are generally good - so it's not like it's frustrating). Of note, in a week, I'm taking a week long trip out of the state, and I won't see her during that time - I'm thinking it will give me a bit of clarity, at least in terms of my feelings towards her, which I think will be helpful. I have a feeling that this transition is taking place in me, and not yet in her (which is fine, it just creates a bit of disconnect that I'm trying to figure out how to best deal with). Any thoughts, help, or comments would be very much appreciated.
Leigh 87 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I know couples be are in the heady cannot keep their hands off one another honey moon period for two or three years. I'd never date a man where it ended within mere months. I'd rather be single than have a companion without loads of passion.
Author fluidian Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 I know couples be are in the heady cannot keep their hands off one another honey moon period for two or three years. I'd never date a man where it ended within mere months. I'd rather be single than have a companion without loads of passion. So Leigh, the end of the honeymoon/infatuation phase of a relationship, is defined by not constantly having your hands all over the other person? If that's the case, we're not there yet. Anything else other than less/lack-of handsiness?
Gary S Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm guessing that this is the likely waning of the honeymoon/infatuation stage of a relationship, which seems a bit early. - it is a little early for the honeymoon stage to end. a few things about her seem a bit annoying - It's early for that too - this could be a problem. Maybe you really don't like this girl enough. Time will tell, whether you stay or go. You'll ultimately vote with your feet. 2
Gary S Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 So Leigh, the end of the honeymoon/infatuation phase of a relationship, is defined by not constantly having your hands all over the other person? If that's the case, we're not there yet. Anything else other than less/lack-of handsiness? - You should have been there by now, if it were likely to happen. (that said, define "hands all over"? Do you mean PDA? Some like that, others not so much).
Author fluidian Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 - You should have been there by now, if it were likely to happen. (that said, define "hands all over"? Do you mean PDA? Some like that, others not so much). Gary - we can't really keep our hands to ourselves - which is why I was wondering if Leigh had any other views on when the honeymoon phase is winding down, because that one's not really applicable (yet) - it may also mean that the honeymoon phase is still in full force...
Gary S Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Oh I see, you were speaking hypothetically. I never learned to speak hypothetical.
Redhead14 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I've been dating a great girl for a few months, and while there isn't anything intrinsically wrong, there's a bit less excitement, a few things about her seem a bit annoying, I'm not entirely sure where things are going, etc. I'm guessing that this is the likely waning of the honeymoon/infatuation stage of a relationship, which seems a bit early, but it's obviously not clockwork. So I'm stuck trying to figure out what's normal, acceptable, etc., and what's more of a detail breaker. Moreover, what gets better once you get out of this phase (I know the excitement is less, but I've heard other things can be better - maybe I should keep my eye out for those)? Anything get worse (other than less excitement)? Regardless, we've been seeing each other pretty frequently and probably spend the night together 4-5 times/week. The good thing, though, is that she seems to want to try to give me space when I want it/need it...I just haven't really seemed to ask for any (yet). I'm going to keep going with it for a little while, just so I don't do anything ridiculous (and as mentioned, things are generally good - so it's not like it's frustrating). Of note, in a week, I'm taking a week long trip out of the state, and I won't see her during that time - I'm thinking it will give me a bit of clarity, at least in terms of my feelings towards her, which I think will be helpful. I have a feeling that this transition is taking place in me, and not yet in her (which is fine, it just creates a bit of disconnect that I'm trying to figure out how to best deal with). Any thoughts, help, or comments would be very much appreciated. How long have you been seeing each other? 3 months? 6 months? And, how long have you been feeling as if things were "waning"?
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